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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I think you’re over thinking this.

Yeah, I think maybe my anxiety is taking me for a ride.

Also when your partner says “I don’t really like putting the rain coat on” it’s kind of a turn off. Tough. We don’t really want to feel it either but it is what it is.

I feel like I should clarify so I don't sound like a total asshole here: the rain coat was my idea. the REQUIREMENT was my idea. I was happy to take responsibility cause it left us in a position to start trying when we decided to. Originally the plan to start trying soon. I'm happy to take responsibility for cleaning up my mess so to speak, and I'll be more than happy to go get the snip the second we decide we're done. It was certainly not a "I hate this and wish you didn't force me into it". More a tongue in cheek "Why did I think this was a good idea?". hence the surprise when she said "well, dont then!"

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I don't think you're an arsehole. These are decisions that couples have to make through out their relationship. It doesn't matter whose idea it was, if that's what was decided then you need to stick to it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Yeah I agree with CEO here. Don't forget that both partners are equally likely to get carried away in the moment, seek more intimacy and closeness and make the same dumb mistakes. If there's no history of manipulation then I would err on the side of thinking you both just made the same in-the-moment call. Breathe. Its ok. There's a lot of big emotions and tiredness over there.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

That's why it's important to make decisions outside of the bedroom and stick to them.