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[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

My GF in college whipped out excel and did some math in the spreadsheet while we were talking about something. So I decided to learn excel and that’s been a super useful thing to know my whole life.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

How to say so when something isn’t good enough. I’m super prone to just accept shitty delivery/products/service. My wife is amazing at saying “I was super disappointed” but in a way that gets the other person on board and often rectifies the issue. She’s super awesome at expressing limits without aggression and it’s definitely made me a better person to be around; before I would accept my own borders being crossed while the pressure was building and then explode with rage. Much easier to deal with things up front and then be authentic. Still learning but she’s great at this.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

How to listen to a woman’s intent over her words.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Adding salt to your ketchup when eating fries, instead of salting the fries. That way it's always salty enough on every fry. Such an easy hack.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Wow, I've never heard of that, but that's really smart.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Thinking before speaking. I would just sort of stream of consciousness it before. I still do sometimes, because I like the surprising things that come out of my mouth, but it's handy to be able to rein it in when nessa

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

when nessa

Omg, thanks I hate it…is this a thing? I mean I might love it, not sure yet.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Definitely not a "thing," and extra definitely not contemporary.

I've only ever known one other person to say it, and that was the ex partner my comment above was about! They had a really playful way of speaking, and I realise in retrospect I've unconsciously taken on a lot of their little idiosyncrasies.

I had to look it up, but it looks like it's a reference to this line from High Anxiety with Mel Brooks.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Love it. Thanks!

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 months ago (3 children)

My ex (though really his mom i guess) taught me you can just run a half empty dishwasher. I grew up without a lot of money, so we weren't running the dishwasher until it was full (big family, so pretty often). But when you're one or two people, it never fills up so I was just hand washing dishes, hating my life. They ran the dishwasher every night no matter how full or empty it was. At 9pm, the dishwasher started. It's stupid to say it changed my life, but now I just run it whenever I want. I also run my washing machine all the time and folding half loads is so much better, I no longer hate laundry.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

It’s like 3 gallons of hot water and a bit of soap.

Should cost less than 0.50¢

[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago (1 children)

seems like a waste of energy

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

The dishwasher is generally more efficient than handwashing. It reuses the water, so you're using less water. In terms of electricity usage, I'm seeing around 2 kWh for one load.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I mean it seems like a waste to run it if it is not full.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Intuitively, I get it. But unless you just have a couple of dishes, it's hard to beat a dishwasher.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago (1 children)

My wife was like this when we met. She also grew up more poor than me. I still see her washing a lot of stuff by hand that should be in the dishwasher. Old habits die hard. The unspoken agreement is when we run out of a utensil, or get down to one, we run the dishwasher.

One thing my mom taught her through me is not putting good kitchen knives or any wood through the dishwasher.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Also, wood utensils, cutting boards, etc. need oiling. Just cheap mineral oil should do.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 5 months ago (3 children)

My first serious boyfriend taught me how to change the oil, change a tire, and rotate the tires on my car. Also that I don't like anal.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

I applaud the first part.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Hmmm. Technique and protocol is important in all of these.

Did it hurt?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Bahaha! Yeah, when he whipped out that 4-way tire iron...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Never heard a phallus called that. Youch

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

A tire iron up your ass? No wonder you don't like anal

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

Rotating the tires is really important! I really hope you do it every month as the manufacturer requires. Few people do.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 5 months ago (1 children)

My wife taught me to cook and that I was allowed to have feelings. I taught her a bunch of computer stuff and that she was allowed to have feelings.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

I still can't cook, but my wife definitely taught me that I'm allowed to have feelings; And most everything I know about expressing those feelings without being a complete asshole and without going straight from calm to rant-y.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

My ex taught me how to crochet, which was pretty cool of her. I've always wanted to do stuff with yarn and having someone there to guide and correct me was so useful. I'm not sure I would have stuck with it if I tried to learn via online tutorials.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 months ago

Does him teaching me how to kiss count?

[–] [email protected] 44 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Not a girlfriend, but a date (that ultimately didn’t go anywhere). She was a teacher and I mentioned despite being a software engineer and having to take up to Calc 2 in university, I never actually learned long division. So, she taught me.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

How did you escape the pointless toil that is long division?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Only up to calc 2?! Why did they make me take Calc 3, Numerical Analysis, Discrete Math, and Sets and Logic?!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

Some of those I understand complaining about but honestly Sets & Logic is a great class for a programmer. I wish that was in the standard math path so that everyone got a little of it in high school, the closest I got was doing proofs in geometry which while that is a sort of logic training it doesn't really teach you how to make use of anything.

Also, depending what you're building exactly, advanced Calc and Numerical Analysis may be very useful and/or required to perform. Especially if you're trying to accurately model something that happens in meatspace.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago
[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Taking a bra off from underneath a shirt!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago

How to roll big doinks

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