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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

I think I’m peckish but no snack foods.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I'm watching The Trojan Women, a 1971 movie from a Euripides play.

It's full of great tragedy. It's meant to be emotional, it was written to shame perpetrators of war. This is like Sophie's Choice x 10.

I think I watch too many movies that require concentration and empathy as I find my reactions just too intellectual.

How many murders a day do I see on screen?

The other thing is i keep on asking myself how they did a shot or what dramatic device is this that makes me think a thing. I find myself changing focus from the story to the how.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

These ancient places that have such a big place in our own society's cultural identity, even if just in stories passed down onto us, these places were so small.

I have been to Troy, just drove past really, it's just a small place. A city state that used to be on the coast but is now inland. It had only 10,000 people. Their men and children murdered and then the women forced into slavery. The movie is harrowing. ( In modern times this is what happened to the Yazidi women of Syria. Their men and children were murdered and then the women were forced into slavery. )

A suburb is like living in a town, I can't help putting myself, my loved ones and my neighbours in the place of these characters. I suppose that's what makes it a great play.

5 Hobbits.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

all the tapestries are washed, ironed and ready for patchwork making , I hope it looks good when done

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I have apparently had a suspicious transaction on my credit card, someone trying to buy gift cards. I do wonder how they got the card number, I barely use it. I think I've seen something about methods using random numbers so maybe they just guessed it. The transaction history on that card are all Paypal, Amazon and a couple of local stores in person so not really anything risky. Fortunately it's not my main card so there are no automatic payments to be messed up.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

it pays to keep a close eye on account activity πŸ‘

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

This one was stopped before it even made it to transaction history.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

that's really good

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Travelling to the UK next month. What card should I take? Is there a 101 on this somewhere? I'm with CommBank.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

If you use your regular bank card, very likely you will be charged currency conversion fees for every transaction you make overseas. I’m with CBA and they charge these fees for my everyday account.

What you need is an account that doesn’t charge currency conversion or ATM withdrawal. Look at Bankwest for debit or Latitude for credit.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

@fullkitwanker @Seagoon_ I got one of these the last time I travelled: https://www.cashpassport.com.au/

As long as your card is a Visa or MasterCard, it should work over there in most cases. However, I would check the fees before using it overseas.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago (2 children)

First day at second job was really awesome. Feels like I'm working with real people! And so much respect and warmth! Plus some very compatible interests/tastes/politics. Cozy, comfy office and such a short commute... I couldn't ask for more??!

I think I have a random crush developing on a colleague however, which needs to be viciously stepped on and killed with a flamethrower immediately. Please let them have a partner. Haven't heard one mentioned so far... if they don't say anything I'm going to ask (obliquely).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Hell yeah! Glad it's working out well ❀️

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I definitely had a couple of poignant moments of "wow I can't believe what I put up with at my old place".

But it's like with love and relationships, sometimes the best healing from an old job isn't just time off, but a new and better environment to rewire the brain 😊

We'll see how this goes over the next few weeks. Never managed two jobs like this before

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

I totally agree with you. Time off is nice, but getting back onto the proverbial horse makes a hell of a difference.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Sounds awesome, so happy for you.

In regard to your work colleague though there are some people who never talk or mentions their other half or partner, even with people who I’ve worked with for over a decade, some of them rarely talk about their other half though they do talk about other aspects of their lives including their kids.

Just a friendly little heads up about it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Oh for sure. Most people I've worked with have the age and circumstances to be partnered even if without kids, so I generally assume that unless said otherwise.

Not that I care 99% of the time; this is just an incredibly stupid crush that will go away soon enough... but it'll go away faster if I know there's a partner for sure!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

But at the same time who knows what could happen!

Especially if this person isn’t with or seeing someone.

New beginnings and all.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I have been listening to a book about scientific intuition, what it is and why people believe incorrect theories and facts.

Answer, we are born as babies who know nothing, cognitive limitation as adults and the way we live and experience the world around us frames the questions we ask.

I was really surprised at the cognitive limitations data, even graduates of physics degrees might not know or understand basic principles because they are unable to have the mental imagery required for understanding. ie, unable to use visualisation

I suppose that explains why some students can pass exams but can't explain what they learnt or remember it years later or integrate the knowledge into their world view

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

What's it called? That sounds fascinating

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Scienceblind: Why Our Intuitive Theories About the World Are So Often Wrong By: Andrew Shtulman

"In Scienceblind, cognitive and developmental psychologist Andrew Shtulman shows that the root of our misconceptions lies in the theories about the world we develop as children. They're not only wrong, they close our minds to ideas inconsistent with them, making us unable to learn science later in life. So how do we get the world right? We must dismantle our intuitive theories and rebuild our knowledge from its foundations. The reward won't just be a truer picture of the world, but clearer solutions to many controversies - around vaccines, climate change, or evolution - that plague our politics today."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

This book has really made me think about what I thought of the world when I was a little child and then an older child.

Here's the thing, no adult ever asked me anything about my beliefs so any thoughts I had weren't put into speech or writing. And because of that I have to try to remember original thoughts rather than recall an action. It's not easy.

I expect like most people I like to think I was smart and didn't have silly ideas. But that's not true, I was a kid , I didn't have theories, for example the ground was the ground and I thought no more about it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Thanks for unpacking that. That's fascinating because I think I had the opposite experience. We were taught to question/argue/think about how things worked (one parent in particular was very big on science and science thinking)....so on one hand I find it hard when people can't logic themselves out of conspiracies and such..on the other hand I have spent a LOT of time reprogramming the 'thoughts first, feelings second' approach to life. And I know from depression that logic can take you to a Baaad place when it's built on a faulty core belief. Only in the last few years have I been able to experience the ground as just the ground.

Makes me fascinated by this psychology.

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