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[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

I found my waifu in an anime

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

she walked in on me having sex

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Met her in Copperbell Mines in FFXIV.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

We played 1,000 hours of Elite Dangerous together during the duration of the pandemic. Turns out he's a great skier and a hell of a good cook, too. We are in the process of getting engaged after dating for two years :)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Here is an alternative Piped link(s):

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Sat next to her first day of year 10 in high school.

Didn't get with her for 10 more years but we were always good friends.

Here we are now

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

She was dating my ex girlfriend. When the split my ex suggested that she should go out with me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

That sounds like an interesting story

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

It's really a lot more boring than it sounds. Or maybe it's just something that has happened too often to me for me to think it's not a regular thing.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

So, batman or superman

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I played a song I wrote about cannibalism at an open mic night she was bartending at. She told me she liked my song and gave me a high five. I wanted to ask her out, but didn't want to corner her while she was working, so I made some jokes and left.

She sent me a friend request on Facebook, so I sent her a message asking her out. Said something like, "Yo. You're real pretty, and I wanted to ask you out, but doing that kind of thing while you're behind a counter seemed uncool." She said she was flattered, but she just started seeing somebody (I missed her by a week). She asked if I wanted to be friends, and I told her I was super attracted to her, so I wasn't all that into being friends (in a super unshitty way). Being buds with someone I have a crush on is almost always a bad idea. But I didn't completely close the door either.

I kept running into her, and we wound up getting closer anyway. I kept my boundaries (for the most part), and never hid that I was interested in her beyond friendship, but also wasn't a lil creep about it, nor did I pressure her about anything, or try to guilt-trip, or any of those yucky things dudes do when they're interested in someone who wants friendship. I was just very clear that I liked being around her, but wasn't trying to be her best friend or anything from the get.

Her boyfriend was an abusive alcoholic, and like two yearas later, wound up on jail for a few months on his third DUI. She started hanging out more, I made my move, she dumped him while he was in jail (the only real safe way to do it), and now we're engaged as fuck.

Sometimes people have to work shitty relationships out of their system, and I kinda pride myself on finding the balance on being around and available, but not TOO available, and real clear about my intentions. Wound up with the coolest, prettiest, kindest person I have ever met. I got hella lucky.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

and now we’re engaged as fuck

high five!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Hell yeah! Thanks! Never wanted to get married. But I super do, now! I can't wait to point out her ass to all the staff at our retirement home.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

On the internet! It was a writing/roleplay app that doesn't exist anymore. We hit it off, became best friends then started dating. We got married in 2019 when I went down to meet her parents then she came up here here for covid. Been together 7 years. Shits amazing.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

At a bdsm club.

Spotted her across the way. She spotted me when I struck up a conversation with the boyfriend of her bff.

Here we are 6 years later married.

Good times.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

Online dating, but we really clicked once it turned out we both love same kinda of video games (mostly Kojima stuff). She commented on my gaming headsets in one of my pics, but they were not even gaming headset, they were just Bluetooth sennheisers, but from there we dove deeper into our interests. Thank you Sennheisers!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

Tinder. We are married now and expecting a baby

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

My ex broke up because I revived an important problem that was a month old, but she eskalated and broke up. Didnt hurt as she had too many red flags she couldnt fix.

We had a hotel that couldnt be canceled and I was alone with it and payed it alone too. I talked about this issue in a discord dating server and a Person DMed me.

We both also talked how we both dont want a reltationship in future after having both similar issues. But somehow, we both were too attractive and had the best sex in our both's life. We also are very similar and tend to be the person who we dreamed of to have as a partner.

Now life goes on and we are a bit too far away, still. After University we plan to come together and meet every vacation for the best sex again.

I was accepting and embracing the void with the addition to focus on myself and isolate a bit. I loved the idea to finally be able to focus on myself only, but got the love of my life instead.

I still can focus on myself easily for some reason. Other relationships dragged my entire focus onto them as I always had problems that I wasnt allowed to talk about. But with her I easily can talk about anything

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I posted on r/incels and she DMed me.

True story.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

She needs to explain herself. You can't just drop that on us.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I worked at a college bar for beer money. Her friends came in all the time, she did not. Then one night she did, and I was literally struck dumb - just like the stories. There was a few months of seeing her here and there, a few conversations - I had never met a woman so amazing. I was a bug, and she a goddess in every way. Imagine my shock when she handed me a napkin with her phone number on it and said β€œcall me sometime.”

You bet your ass I called her the very next day. That was 28 years ago. The crazy part is things got steadily better over the years. Nothing got β€œboring” it got more exciting. Looks fade, but she’s more beautiful to me today than ever. Kids didn’t drag us down, they made things more fun. Bills and chores and life’s troubles became something we worked through together - teaching us that we can overcome just about anything and be successful. I’d argue all of our success is because we’re a team.

We truly hit the love lottery when both of us were β€œdone” and didn’t believe something like what we have is possible. Put away your baggage, and keep an open mind - your napkin could be handed to you today.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

We truly hit the love lottery

This is the shit

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Local gaming store. I joined one of the tabletop rpgs. We talked a lot after this. He had cats which endeared me to him. I met his cats. His cats liked me. He also had a trashcan in the bathroom so I knew he was smart. We've been together uhhhh 17 years this December I think.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Wow, I would never have expected a bathroom trash can to be a green flag, I thought that was a bare minimum requirement for a home. Congrats!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago

Haha, it was a minor flag but it's good! A lot of bachelors just seem to not have them. Even though they're useful in more than "once a month I must have one" kind of way!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

It had an opet beta weekend prior to fully releasing as "A Realm Reborn"

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

He fixed my bike after I smashed the detailer on a curb -- and later texted the number from my form to ask if I wanted to hang out.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

A little creepy but glad it worked out for you.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I hear you, but we were both in college. It was just normal to reach out to new people. Anyway, going great 12 years later.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Fair enough, younger people do things that may not have been the best idea in hindsight.

Glad it’s going well for you both in any case.

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