Same age? These days I get this with people that are younger than me....
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Comparison, the killer of all joy
I remember I'd been playing guitar for about five years or something and thought I was getting pretty good when I met this kid who was 16 (the same age I started) who'd been playing for six months and was so much better at it than I was, it was scary. That was 23 years ago, and I might be as good as he was now. I'd like to say it never bothered me, but I still remember it.
There's a time, when you will go to the hospital and the doctor will be younger than you. You will feel useless.
yeah and at 27 they burn out get depressed and commit suicide. no thanks
It's my whole life. Being compared to everyone and always being found unworthy.
Think of it like this way.
Whatever you think you are good at, some asian preteen is better at it.
So do stuff because you yourself want to do it, not to be better at it than other people.
Remember, Wilford Brimley (the "diabeetus guy" who was in those ads to lean on his fame as an actor) didn't start acting until he was in his 30s and didn't make it on screen until his 40s, and he wasn't a big actor until his 50s.
When I went back to college in 2020 about half of my graduating class was over the age of 30 and about a third was over the age of 50 (and honestly the older students landed by far the cushiest jobs by graduation, so they were able to skip about 10-15 years of career progression based on prior work experience in an entirely different industry/profession
That's one of the problems of a global communication network. There was a quote i read some years ago (which i wish i could find again) that more or less said that people with some talent who in the past would have been the pride of their village now compete with world class in that skill and now are seen as "average", yet in reality they're talented, is just that the bar has been unfairly raised to "Beat the best in the world".
This day was going to be perfect,
The kind of day of which I dreamed since I was small
relatable af
Mine is JSchlatt ._.
True. It takes talent to do what he did back in 'Nam. Those POWs had it coming.
Huh, you know what, I don't think I feel like this anymore. I used to, but now it doesn't bother me. Thank you for making me realize I have grown.
I will never understand comparing one's self to others. You're like comparing Xbox to PlayStation. I remember my mother comparing my siblings and I to our cousins who were hustling at a young age (looking back now as an adult, it wasn't a good thing considering their circumstances at the time). I retorted by saying they're different people, why should I care? Then thankfully my dad backed me up from my mom's nonsense!
Opposite for me. Parents always put me down and compared me to others. When I told my mum I wanted to be a plumber because they make a lot of money, she made me clean the toilets in the house for 2 years.
But that desire to gain your parents' approval is strong. I was a dumb kid with bad grades, and while I got into university, it wasn't a top tier one. Worked my butt off everyday, in part because I never got that praisal. Slow and steady, but I finally made it to a good job.
(Granted, plumbers still make a lot and my parents were kind of dicks for not realizing that, but my ambitions grew greater than that dream)
Hey, at least my feelings are accurate
I had this when I discovered that my first friend who we bonded over computer achieved a better job at the same company. But I later landed a promotion that outdid him, so he can fuck right off. And now I’m in another highly desirable / competitive role. I’ve reached a point in my career where I’ve got nothing to prove to anyone but myself. It feels pretty great.
First I just draw this head, then erase some of the details… there! A circle!
This doesn't bother me. They're usually the type who put the work in to get where they are so they deserve it.
If it was a talentless incompetent hack who cheated their way through life and reaping the benefits they don't deserve, now that bothers me.
Life is a marathon not a sprint. We don't all have the same problems and we don't all have the same tools at same time to deal with them and that's ok. The value of you is so much more than just the accolades you receive or the money you earn. The meaning to your life is whatever you decide that meaning is not whatever is forced upon you. Remember to be kind to yourself. All anyone can do is try and be a lil better than the day before.
Don't worry, someday you'll be like me; you'll be finding out someone taneted is much younger than you.
That's my secret: I'm always depressed.
20+ years and going strong over here. I wish my shrink would hurry up and get certified for ketamine assisted therapy.
If that doesn't work, psilocybe cubensis isn't hard to grow and it might even be legal where you live.
Eh, my last shroom trip is the reason I no longer do psychedelics. Although through the ego death I did have the epiphany that life doesn't matter, but it really doesn't need to.
But, for a decent amount of the trip I felt like invisible hands were trying to drag my brain into insanity.
Too bad legal LSD isn't a thing, because that was way more chill than shrooms.
Anyways, my depression is persistent depressive disorder, so I don't have any super lows. My depression sits at a 4-5 scale and doesn't move. I just go through life basically not feeling feelings.
Let's make ya'll feel bad https://sam.zeloof.xyz/
Edit: His youtube channel since the web page doesn't work.
the website doesn't work
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