I need to get a grip when driving and not let others upset me so easily.
this post was submitted on 15 May 2025
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I'm a bitter, angry, mfer and I need to chill out sometimes
Same here. I lose my temper too easily then I get back to normal quickly and wonder why I was so upset.
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I've started noticing that I'm echoing some of the bad habits of my father, either behaviorally or genetically, I'm not sure which. I'm determined to never go down that path because I've seen what it's done to our family. I've made some changes that will hopefully head that off. If those don't help, there's always professional help.
Still, depressing to realize.
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The realization of how truely alone I am when everything started collapsing after our house was sold and how my parents who supposedly were suppose to love me, don't love me and how I do have daddy issues because of this and I am not exactly as strong mentally as I thought of myself to be.
I cannot sing.
Even in the shower?
I emit a series of sounds that would be considered a crime by every advanced civilization.
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Anxiety and taking care of others before I take care of myself.
My ADD is far worse than I thought and I should have noticed that decades ago.
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That I actually do have a bad temper and do get angry very easily, that my anger does not justify my verbal/physical reactions (nor was I 'right' just because I was angry) and that these reactions will hurt those I care about/those I don't care about but still didn't deserve my violence, which is a surefire way to end up in jail (perhaps) and in Hell (more likely).
For everyone who has similar issues, try to remember two things:
- Ambiguous behaviour does not mean aggressive behaviour.
- The flesh is weak. If you, in your anger, start a fight and perhaps just push someone and they crack their head and die/lose function, you'll never live it down, you will always be the guy who killed someone in anger (and not even righteous anger, you're just temperamental). And it can happen very quickly too! A good man cannot live with that, only a hell-bound one can, so either you'll be oppressed by your guilt or you'll realize you've lost your humanity and you're a full on psycho.
I needed to read this
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Intelligence and depression go hand-in-hand. Thank God for drugs.
My brother is so smart he can rationalize his way out of seeking help for his chronic depression. I once told him about a FREE depression meds trial and he said "I don't want to be artificially happy." I responded "So you'd rather be naturally miserable?"
The human race is a constant disappointment
I dissociate and fawn pretty much constantly in most social situations. I do not feel in control. What most people know me as is a bunch of trauma responses. I feel like I'm watching myself have conversations and making "decisions" from another room.
It took me a long time to admit this to myself.
Do you manage to better "stand your ground" now that you're aware of the fawning ?
Only really just started to notice I'm doing it constantly. Not much luck or strategy so far
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I have this too, I have some friends that I can be myself with and some other people that my trauma response just kicks in and I become non confrontational people pleaser. Im starting to notice it more and trying to not do it.
holy shit, u put it better than i could, this is exactly what i have been grappling with lately and i have no idea how to fix it
If I understand correctly, fawning is people pleasing to an excess because you're afraid of the potential response. I've had trouble saying "no" for a long ass time, and have been bending over backwards to accomodate other people, at my expense, completely disregarding my own comfort and preferences. I think that's part of the same mechanic. I slowly realized other people mostly place their own needs first, and somehow find themselves legitimate when asking the other party to "meet them halfway". So I've been trying to emulate this. Does this ring a bell to you ?
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I feel like OP just wanted to brag that they're rich enough to have access to brokerage accounts.
Anyone can open an account. I did not type this to brag. I wanted to hear what other people have realized about themselves. I don't own a home/have a mortgage and my cars are beaters. If only I put the money to use in a way that meant something to myself and the people I loved instead of making poor decisions, I might actually be better off in life now.
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Pretty cool thing to learnabout yourself and your own bias i think.
That life is truly a neverending struggle. Sure, you get to enjoy some of that struggle, and you can take a break every now and then. Nevertheless, the only time you're truly free from it is when you're dead.
No, I don't plan to end it immaturely. Please don't put me on suicide watch. I still have my people to take care of. π
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I only exist to care for the people I love, and without them I have nothing else to organize my life around.
If they care for you and love you back, that shouldn't be a problem, right? Life is, and I'm quoting Solomon here, ultimately meaningless/vain/empty/vapor, what better life could we have than to love and be loved? Not everyone is a prophet/disease curing scientist/victorious revolutionary, the rest of us can focus on just enjoying our lives wisely (fearing God and keeping his commandments = being a good person in earnest), loving and being loved, as it fills us way better than food and shopping can.
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Iβm a lazy follower who never figured out who I was, so I just followed the path of least resistance. As a result, I donβt like myself very much and cope with sarcasm and wit.