You are worthy of real, earnest love. You deserve someone who wholeheartedly loves and desires you. You can find that person as soon as you end this relationship and finish mourning the end of the relationship you had. Breakups are a form of death in your life, but sometimes you have to let things go to be free for the next good thing in your life. Don't waste your time on lukewarm partners.
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I'll definitely treasure this one even through all that, I'll do my best with making sure look out for myself a bit on this situation. I do think it best for me to continue to the next person, I don't think I can go through a 4th break up with the same person. That just seems like a horrible cycle to follow. Thank you.
This is the 3rd time he’s trying to break up with me, and last time he promised that he’d wait for me and that he won’t break up with me again and that I’d be the one to do so. Just my trust in him is shattered after this.
I know you like him, but that second time should have been the sign to walk (if the first one wasn't enough).
I am just not sure which way to take this, try to continue with the visit and maybe still stay together or just decide not to go and cut him off from being friends.
If there's no chance of a compromise between the two positions (ie don't visit, say you get the message but you can stay friends. Just as long as you know that, a few months from now, you won't be trying to talk him into giving it another chance) then I suppose you go with the latter option.
Yeah this does sound like the better option, it's not like I'm the one apologizing.
I don't know either of you or your dynamic but it looks almost inevitable that, if you flew out there and talked it through, you'd agree to give things another go. Then a few months later you'd be right back at this point again.
He's said he doesn't want the relationship to continue three times, you need to accept that and do whatever you feel you need to do to ensure it doesn't happen a fourth time as this isn't good for either of you. If that means cutting off all contact then so be it.
I do feel like that way too, I do know that this time it really is better if i dont continue this relationship.
You admit that this is the third time your partner has broken up with you. I know it hurts and sucks, but it's time to move on. You shouldn't have to convince someone to love you and be with you. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you and your (now ex) partner has the right to walk away amicably without being assailed for it (even if it would make you feel better emotionally for a time).
I'm sorry you're having this experience though. I've been there and it's the kind of thing that sticks with you. But you can and will get past it.
I've been doing really good on not messaging him rn. I'll take your word on that "has the right to talk away amicably without being assailed for it", I'll do my best on that. Thx dud.
I know it's hard, and it won't get any easier in the short term, but you deserve to be loved by someone who wants to be with you. This won't be your last relationship. In time you will heal and hopefully find someone who cherishes you for you
Hell yeah, I do deserve to be with someone like that. I'm keeping a optimistic outlook on that, thx bru
Yeah, if he had wanted to do it in person he would had waited ig.
Hey man, I'm sorry you're going through this. That being said, you need to let him go. It's not worth staying in a relationship if the other person wants out. It isn't healthy for either of you.
Yeaaahh, I thought I was just tryna do it properly by doing it in person xD
If you feel like that will give you more closure on the relationship, then go for it. Don't let meeting up influence you to try to keep the relationship going longer though. He's already wanted to end this multiple times and you are hurting yourself by keeping it going at this point.
I wish you the best of luck.