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Been with this guy for 3 years now, I have been making plans in my head for when we are able to move in together, while unfortunately we were in a long distance relationship we still had a lot in common and were able to enjoy our time online together playing videogames and watching movies with the occasional visit once every 4 months or so for a week.

Such a pretty relationship, I feel, like I'm enjoying his company throughout my days of studying and university. But anyways, he feels like he doesn't want to try to make our relationship workout anymore, so basically breaking up with me. I told him before I let him finish, that I'm gonna be a bit stubborn and still go ahead with my visit in 10 days to go talk to him in person to actually do this. He sighed, and said that he owes me that atleast. This is the 3rd time he's trying to break up with me, and last time he promised that he'd wait for me and that he won't break up with me again and that I'd be the one to do so. Just my trust in him is shattered after this.

I am just not sure which way to take this, try to continue with the visit and maybe still stay together or just decide not to go and cut him off from being friends. I'm not sure, part of me wants to still go and do agree we need to break up and just leave the relationship without a sour taste in the mouth, and maybe in the future be friends again.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

You are worthy of real, earnest love. You deserve someone who wholeheartedly loves and desires you. You can find that person as soon as you end this relationship and finish mourning the end of the relationship you had. Breakups are a form of death in your life, but sometimes you have to let things go to be free for the next good thing in your life. Don't waste your time on lukewarm partners.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I'll definitely treasure this one even through all that, I'll do my best with making sure look out for myself a bit on this situation. I do think it best for me to continue to the next person, I don't think I can go through a 4th break up with the same person. That just seems like a horrible cycle to follow. Thank you.