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Original post https://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/i-worked-at-an-escort-agency-this-is-how-it-changed-my-attitude-to-sex-20250606-p5m5im.html

I began to see the sheer breadth of people seeking connection — and the assumptions I’d internalised about desire, age, ability, and worth started to unravel. I spoke to clients in their 20s and clients in their 80s. One elderly gentleman in a wheelchair had his adult daughter arrange the booking for him. Another, a middle-aged man with motor neurone disease, needed help with logistics, but still sought intimacy. A respected psychiatrist would ask for “absolutely no talking”. A retiree just wanted to be cuddled and told that everything was going to be okay. Some requested elaborate fantasies. Others asked for nothing more than to feel normal – seen, desired, held.

It was, frankly, beautiful. And confronting. Because it shattered something I’d long believed: that only certain people get to be sexual. That desire is reserved for the abled, the attractive, the young. That illness cancels it out.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (1 children)

It's fascinating that sex work is still illegal in so much of the world.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Only very backwards countries.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

While I agree, people don't often think of countries like Sweden as very backwards.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 32 minutes ago

sex work isn't illegal here last i checked, what's illegal is buying sex

[–] [email protected] 22 points 22 hours ago (5 children)

Because it shattered something I’d long believed: that only certain people get to be sexual. That desire is reserved for the abled, the attractive, the young. That illness cancels it out.

Seems like a very strange belief to have held in the first place (with respect to prostitution), even with her medical condition. It's quite obvious that if you open up sex and intimacy to anyone who can pay for it, there will be zero restrictions on the type of clientele. That's the entire point of the service.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 30 minutes ago

also the fact that old people when left to their devices will start having kinky sex is a pretty common joke

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago

Yet as a disabled person it’s a belief that society constantly projects onto you.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 21 hours ago

Agreed, really is a super sheltered view of sexuality, it's basically impossible to keep all kinds of people from fucking in general

[–] [email protected] 30 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I read that as less of a "belief" and more of an "assumption". Most people don't think about paraplegic sex at any point on their life, so her assumption went unquestioned until she was prompted to by sex work.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 hours ago

This reminds me a series of "porn" pictures of a paraplegic couple having sex that sometimes pass around on the internet. It was like the third time I saw them that I leat that the pictures were requested from the couple itself to be shared on the disability community, to show up that disability dosen't mean an asexual life.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 22 hours ago

If you are young and attractive and the only other context you have for sex is porn the belief is understandable. Its emotionally immature view that I'm glad she grew out of AND decided to write an article about to help others.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 23 hours ago

It’s funny how many receptionists brothels have