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Imagine growing up being told things would go one way ... and then they don't, and -- as such -- there's zero preparation. Not even H. (beehaw.org)

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I've mentioned a few things over slightly fewer months. I really do need to write a book about my life, because it's apparently somewhere around the 95th percentile on how people go. International choir trips as a kid, the semester as an exchange student, forcing your way into a college without legacy options, then seizing control of the opinion section at the school paper when journalism wasn't even the goal.

I expected the same opportunities my parents had. I think we all did in the '80s -- "fuck you, I got mine, and now you need to support me" wasn't yet clear.

Not being clear is nonetheless formative.

I just wanted the same opportunities. That wasn't to be. My folks didn't do cocaine, but it was rather popular in some circles.

My career has been a heavy lift in which I've been told I'm wrong to believe I shouldn't lose purchasing power every year. Sorry, but I'm (barely) Gen X. I could bike out for the day, and were I not home by dinner, the friend who I ended up with would have his mom call my folks; a sleepover generally ensued.

What we've turned into is this metastasized unrecognized mass. Helicopter parenting, people thinking they can order partners off a menu. That may be normal to you, but it's recent.

I usually date women who aren't into men -- because we're, in general, assholes. I don't exclude myself. But straight women generally want assholes [citation needed] and to act, well, like compliant women. Where's the fun in that? If you aren't my equal, why are we dating?

Sorry, I was watching a YouTube video where all sense was thrown out the window, and I can't stand by and call any of this OK. You have every right to be barefoot and pregnant. You also have every right -- for now -- not to choose to do so.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

I feel for you, but that "straight women generally want assholes" talk is the entrance to the incel pipeline. Careful with that kind of thinking. Women want all kinds of things. Don't get sucked into all that black pill shit.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

But straight women generally want assholes [citation needed] and to act, well, like compliant women.

Perhaps you're attracted to a certain aesthetic/behaviour and women who meet those criteria are attracted to assholes? Or are in an area that forces women into those roles? None of the women in my circle find assholes or being compliant appealing, and absolutely maddening that you would generalise to such an extent. Also very funny as many men think they're attracted to independent, non-compliant women and then proceed to find fault in those very behaviours which were so "attractive".