Asklemmy

Lost my virginity.

Being the (almost) 40 Year Old Virgin is not as great as they say it is.

To start taking care of my self. In all aspects.

The act of starting to love, appreciate and take care of oneself it's a very powerful life changer that can save and avoid you a lot of problems. From physic and mental health, to social relationships and to career/work and much more.

I feel and think life is much more enjoyable if you lookout for yourself and for others.

Abstain from alcohol

I wish I would have came out of the closet immediately instead of being in two marriages that really sucked because I was confused about what I wanted and I didn’t want to ostracize myself from my family and peers.

Fuck, that felt good to get out

• Get tested and subsequently treated for ADHD.

• Dump the ex I was dating around that time instead of letting her take up two years of my life that I wont get back.

• Pay more attention to the people that actually put effort into their friendship/relationship with me and drop the ones that didn't.

• Work out more and eat better.

• Socialize as much as I could while living in the dorms.

• Either join or create study groups.

I wish I had dropped out of college as I planned to.

Warn my boyfriend he had a brain tumor while still possible to treat

Kept in touch with friends.

Got back on ADHD meds that my parents took me off as a 10yo as they didn't like the side effects.

Exercised.

Study, get the certification I ended up getting eventually (that i was repeatedly recommended to do but was too perpetually exhausted to study for), and breaking into IT as a career sooner.

Not waste years 18-22 in a shitty grocery store/fast food job. To this day I can't stand to look at a rotisserie chicken cooker.

Bought a house. The house I just purchased costs ~2500 a month. If I had bought it at 18, it would cost have 900 a month.

Even now, at 2500 a month, the rent price in my area for a 2Bed 2Bath shit box will surpass that cost in ~5 years.

Go to a therapy

Less fucking about, more fucking

Worry less about grades and academic performance, met my actual therapist back then so I could understand more about myself through exploration of my own self.

Hug my dad more if I knew he would be gone in a few years. Miss him everyday.

For a long time, I'd say accept that nothing was going to happen with this girl I fell for at the time, and focus on my writing (what I was in college for at the time, with an eye to getting into a great program at the uni down the road for slighty less total cost than just going there).

I've since learned it's important not to focus on what you could've done differently in the past. It's done, and it lead to wherever you are today. But boy, did that person - more accurately, the situation I found myself in re: that person - cause a series of events that included some pretty dark times.

But who's to say life right now would be better for it?

Stop trying so hard to get laid. I could have had better relationships if I'd just stopped making that my goal.

But those teenage boy hormones hit hard and that's literally all I could think about back then.

stop distracting myself from myself and come to terms with my identity

Looked inward and truly considered how my words and actions affected others

I (emotionally) hurt someone I cared about deeply, and it has taken years of work and therapy to begin to move past it

I think I did pretty well at 18. If I could have met my future partner earlier that'd be pretty sweet.

Otherwise, I'm happy with what I did... so I'll go with the bullshit dumb answer of "Buy lots of Apple stock" because I've got nothing else to use it on.

If you're asking what you should do... find yourself, have some crazy sex, don't fall into awful vices like gambling. Just enjoy yourself.

My drivers license. Now I'm 19 and still need to do it.

Tried dancing with that girl at the prom who actually wanted to dance with me. Yeah the music was loud, but I should have tried anyway. (Even not knowing how.)

Eventually I learned better how to talk/interact with women and even married a great one, but I do wonder how my life would be different if I had earlier what little skill I have now.

Gave a shit about school. Instead I was way too worried about finding that one girl for me. Now I’m dumb, poor, and have the most wonderful wife in the world… after a few false starts.

Noticed how many people were interested in me. Could have had a lot more connections had I nurtured them when I had the chance. Now that i'm a grown ass man and it's really kicking me in the ass just how hard it is to even meet people, nonetheless make a connection.

The only phone number I ended up getting was my manager (when I resigned) I didn't even realize they liked me until years later and I'm not even entirely sure that the number is still theirs and even if it were they've long ago moved and it wouldn't even be a good idea anyway.

Moral of the story if anyone gives you the time of day do the bare minimum of getting a contact so that you can catch up with them later.

Wish I had gotten diagnosed with adhd. Earlier would have been better, but really it was college and early 20s where it hurt me the most (ie the period of time where I no longer had my parents managing my calendar, and before my wife and I started divvying up personal and household tasks based on our strengths)