this post was submitted on 02 Apr 2025
630 points (95.4% liked)
Greentext
6259 readers
1405 users here now
This is a place to share greentexts and witness the confounding life of Anon. If you're new to the Greentext community, think of it as a sort of zoo with Anon as the main attraction.
Be warned:
- Anon is often crazy.
- Anon is often depressed.
- Anon frequently shares thoughts that are immature, offensive, or incomprehensible.
If you find yourself getting angry (or god forbid, agreeing) with something Anon has said, you might be doing it wrong.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
Tbh I would probably try speed dating if I was looking for someone these days. I don't think I would have at 18-25 though.
The older you get, the more you value your time and energy (mental, emotional, physical, etc.) At least it seems that way for me and people in my age range. I did actually meet a woman recently and actually enjoy every minute spent together so I'm gonna take that fork in the road and see where it leads. Another part of aging, I no longer have high hopes so I just go with the flow. If it works out, great, if not, totally fine, life goes on.
load more comments
(1 replies)
I think a lot of men are just satisfied staying home playing their video game of choice while wanking it or using online apps for hookups.
Dating is a lot of work.
Honestly, I get it's a green text, but this is pretty easily explained. First off: dating is fucking expensive, and unfortunately standard gender roles means the dude foots the bill most of the time. Yes times are changing, but that's still pretty standard. Pair that with the fact that dudes usually have to make the first move (again, old gender standards) and the fact that social media adds another layer of risk of being ridiculed or making someone viral because they were 'crimge' or 'gave the girl the ick' and it's a pretty stacked deck. Hell, point one is such a strong weigh in that it's enough to explain all of it. People are more broke than ever, and if dating by default involves going out, well guess that date isn't going to happen.
I went out on a first date with this woman recently and we just split the bill 50/50. It was a refreshing change of scenery. I think that should be standard so that nobody has any expectations on either side. As time goes on you can figure out how to allocate cash flow but first dates should never be 100% on one gender, unless one of them are rich (in my opinion at least.)
load more comments
(22 replies)
Didn't they explicitly ask via #metoo movement and what not for men to NOT approach them directly ever or else they screem that this is harassment?
No that's totally different. You can approach women just don't be a douche/creep and respect the rejections and otherwise when it works you're in.
Your point holds under circumstances that make them uncomfortable like during night or when they're feeling unsafe because a few bad apples do invoke trauma.
If you're not a bad apple you have nothing to worry about. Except femcels, those ones are misandrists and theres no hope like for incels. Leave them to correct themselves or stay alone forever.
If you're not a bad apple you have nothing to worry about. Except femcels, those ones are misandrists and theres no hope like for incels.
It's not always immediately obvious who those are. So every interaction is a dice roll to see if you get a date, get rejected politely, or screamed at and publicly dragged through the mud. Remember the Instagram gym girls yelling at gym bros glancing in their general direction? For a lot of younger men, the consequences of the risk, however small, outweigh the reward.
load more comments
(2 replies)
I think that speaking out loud about malicious activities towards women is important and yes, harassment is real, but it really feels like society became almost too sensitive when it comes to approaching women. Some years ago there were video campaigns where they would literally show how one men stops another from talking to stranger female, before he was given a change to be either creepy or nice and respectful with like assumption that this is bad anyway. And also who's to judge where's the boundary between being creep or not anyway, this can be very subjective.
And it's not my POV, I just speak about what I see in internet/media. Being gay introvert I couldn't care less about talking to strangers...
load more comments
(9 replies)
I don't know what the problem is there but I can say Im stretched too thin. I once went on Prozac and it completely changed my energy levels for a time. Unfortunately, the effects wore off within a year and everything was a slog again. It just sucks to know what it feels like to have excess energy and all the dopamine that comes with it only to go back to critically low levels.
The end of the day the amount of time I would need to sort all my shit out is just not afforded to me. So I go with incremental improvements and the way things are, the world is getting shittier faster than I'm getting better.
load more comments
(4 replies)