I'm doing a back health and injury questionnaire. I don't even know what the half the questions mean. ( so I've looked stuff up. that's not a bad thing, at least I will learn stuff the right way from the beginning )
what I do know, I'm older π
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I'm doing a back health and injury questionnaire. I don't even know what the half the questions mean. ( so I've looked stuff up. that's not a bad thing, at least I will learn stuff the right way from the beginning )
what I do know, I'm older π
oven fish and chips with some salad for dinner tonight
Put water out for wildlife the day before preparing for hot weather... realise I've left the back door cracked all day. Derp.
(I lock the screen door but often leave the wooden one slightly open for a bit of fresh air to circulate.)
I couldn't not get one to try. It was shelf temp so it's in the fridge cooking for Ron.
Wot?!
I like you bull until I saw the Jim Beam sitting there. Jfc.
What's wrong with Jim Beam??
It's bourbon and I've picked up too many empties from my nature strip.
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It would be nice to live in a time and place where villages were the norm, where people could go out to the street for company, have a chat about anything, with people that are lifelong friends about whatever is on your mind. In todayβs time and place, having friend contact needs special planning and arrangements and itβs rare to have them all in one place and know each other. I wonder if this modern life with lack of social contact is contributing to mental health epidemic.
before television people used to go out and visit friends, family and neighbours after work. To chat, play cards, have a cup of te
now everyone sits at home watching tv
but we are such a social animal that the first chance we had of connecting again we grabbed it, we went on the net
but net is being abused by some people, it's too private, and defending yourself from manipulative words is hard , even adults have trouble with mean people
a balance would be good
I just try to gravitate to the places with the least amount of arseholes :'(
Yeah. People working all the time, being forced to move wherever they can afford (and move frequently), opposing shifts, car dependence, the norm being nuclear families with little support meaning people pair off and disappear into their immediate family. Every outside space except libraries being monetised. In some places anti-homeless architecture means a place isn't inviting or there's nowhere comfortable to sit...
It's the loss of community and third places.
Also it's self reinforcing. My neighbourhood is quite rough (frequent issues with mental health and resulting violence/antisocial behaviour) so I don't feel comfortable going out. Other places might not have anywhere for local people to go, period.
So then you get everybody having heavy reliance on the increasingly corporatised social media hellscape, creating new issues.
Iβm so tired. My weekend has so much on
The ABC correspondent I've been speaking to has suggested that if I show my face, be it in a photo or video interview, the story will have a higher chance of being picked up.
I would lose so much in my professional and personal life it's not funny.
I don't want to appear in Google searches. I don't want to be the "face" of addiction recovery.
Am I being selfish? Or are they being blind even asking for photos or video?
I want to help, I want people that are stigmatized to be seen in a different light.
I just don't know if I can sacrifice so much for it.
Fuck.
Donβt. I know someone who has been called the poster boy for one of the smack subs. Donβt.
Oh yeah, and be warned. You don't know what kind of spin the journalist might put on it. Or if they're going to even stick to the consented to subject. It's in their interest to get your trust so you open up.
Someone I know was going to go to the media about a longstanding issue they weren't getting redress for. The journo ended up interviewing a family member of the original person, taking pictures and asking about things that were none of their business, and spinning up a shamey narrative 'exposing' and demonising the relatives in something that was basically a puff piece playing into divisive public sentiment. Basically they saw a random opportunity for rage bait and went for it. This person got their reputation publicly destroyed.
Nothing happened with the original issue that help was needed for. That was left ignored.
Future employers will google you. If you do decide to show your face, I would recommend using an alias.
Protect yourself first. The journos want a sensation foremost, a scoop. They're not too concerned about what affect that has on your life.
Nope absolutely donβt show your face. Not worth it. Itβs forever.
It's YOUR choice. You do not have a duty to show your face, to rescue other people at the expense of your life.
The show will be forgotten in a year or two, it's effect will be minimal ( tho it will be real and positive)
but the negative effect on you will be forever
Leave the public faces to those who do it for a living and who can have a big effect. Like politicians and famous health care policy makers and workers.
I say. Don't show your face. Your privacy , your name, is one of those most valuable assets you have. Don't have it destroyed.
Don't do it if you're not comfortable - even if it means they might not proceed with the rest of the article, doesn't mean you're shutting the door on helping stigmatised people forever. It's just not the right time yet for you, and that's okay! Who knows, in 5 years time you might have such a secure position in life that you will be ready to go public. Or maybe you might never, and only be able to go with a blurred face and pen name. Hell, I would say most people wouldn't want to appear with face and name in a news article in the first place - let alone people in your position. It's a scary world out there in terms of data collection.
Ask them if you can use a pen name? And include the reasons in the article, exactly what you just said here. The ongoing stigma is real.
I think that's enough watering for today. Took forever even though half that shit is auto.
Burned through 1L of seasol and 3/4L powerfeed.
This time of year the some hibiscus stigma just catch the light in the evening:
Edit fuck I think I has forgot me botany... stamen
that's really lovely , that pink and yellow together is spectacular
A kid outside is singing 'Let It Go' by shouting the phrase at a high pitched monotone on loop and has been for some time now. π This is why I don't have kids, only cats.
I luckily don't get that much distinguishable kid noise where I live (aside from school grounds). But the neighbours 6 or 7 yo kid was being ultra whiny today outside just now (sounding more like a 4-5 yo) and telling his dad "you are being very annoying and this is a waste of your time". Kiddo, in another 15-20 years, you will come to realise who was being annoying.
You learn to tune them out. Even your own.
I just can't handle it.
Fair enough.
I tune them out so hard I sleep through their screams. Reason #275583381 I donβt have kids.
I bought one for entertainment purposes.
Also they don't appreciate being called "slave".
We are continuing the celebration of women by playing female singers. The man was busy at work today......making a Spotify list. He told me "it's not International women's day without Samantha Fox. Every boy his age had a poster of her on their wall".
Tracy Chapman. L7.
We've moved on now. J5 and DMB Work It Out just played.
How it works is this: man makes list. I suggest songs. He queues them. I'm forbidden from touching list because I can destroy. I have literally made lists disappear too many times.
Thereβs be so many great ones to include! My contributions are: Iβm every woman- Chaka Khan, Respect - Aretha Franklin, Venus - Bananarama.