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I'll reply with the all mighty answer:
It depends.
Depends on the people you are talking to I'd say.
Not rude at all.
Yeah that sounds like a you problem. Most people use it to just mean "ok." But I mean, if you said "mom just died ๐ญ" and you get "๐" as a reply, that one's probably rude.
In private messages outside of work, yes, it comes across passive aggressive and is a hard stop to a conversation. In work context though, it's pretty common on teams as an acknowledgement, though I still think it's nicer to use like a heart react then actually reply.
Talking sense right here
It depends on what it's in response to.
Dinner at 6 at Greasy Spoon?
๐
Entirely reasonable.
Should we do the project in COBOL?
๐
Entirely unreasonable, but not rude.
My cat just died.
๐
Rude.
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Nope, not at all.
It depends on the context
If I'm just looking for a confirmation that my message was received, and the plans need to additional modification, a thumbs up is sufficient.
If I ask something like "Wanna meet up at the bar after work today?" And get a thumbs up, that's sufficient. We know where we're going and when, no more discussion really needed.
If I ask "you free to grab a beer this weekend?" and I get a thumbs up, that's bullshit. When are you free to grab said beer? Where are we going for it? We have details that need to be hammered out.
Depends on context but generally no. I use it myself to either agree with or acknowledge messages if I don't have anything to add. I don't see why you should interpret it as rude if the person you're speaking to, or people in general, have stated they don't intend it to be rude.
I basically use it as a way to acknowledge that I saw a message but have nothing further to ask or add.
I suppose it depends what I sent them to prompt the reply? "Dinner at 6?" followed by ๐ is fine. "My grandpop is dying, he may not make it through the week" -> ๐ would send me right off.
Not โฆ really ? Don't think I ever seen it used in ways that could be read that way , not sure wy some one would use it like that either
It's possible you have dealt with more than your fair share of sarcastic passive aggressive people in your life so far. Most people give a ๐๐ผ as a confirmation, like "OK". Its especially common when someone is bust, like if they're driving or in a meeting, or trying to think.
I totally get you! Whenever I feel that it could be interpreted that way, I don't send the thumbs-up. I do use it though, but I try to be careful to avoid that misinterpretation.
If I react to a message with a ๐ it's innocuous, but if I reply to a message ๐ it's actually me being passive aggressive like I can't be bothered to type a real response
Yes! I just responded with something similar lol that's exactly how I use it and how I would take it
For message received, I use the press and hold emoji reactions, "tapbacks" I think they're called.
For some reason I associate an actual "๐๐ผ" text as being less nice? Because now you took the time to open your keyboard and find the thumbs up. Like equivalent to texting "K." Lol
Ya, a react like sure that's fine, but a response, I just always think like if I said something to you in real life and you just replied ๐... that's rude as fuck lol
๐
This is literally my "message received" emote.
If people thought it was rude, I'd be fired by now.
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Yes. It frequently comes across as passive aggressive or as if the person doesn't care.
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yes ๐
Nope, because I use it myself. But I don't use it as a conversational tool though. I just use it as confirmation that I received and read what you sent but it isn't necessary to continue the conversation. For example, I'm already in a conversation with someone and the assumption is I need them to send me a file. When they finally send it over, I just react with a thumbs up to confirm I got it. Context is important. The emoji is only as meaningful as the context of the conversation it is in.
It depens on the context. I use ๐ in my work to show that I get the messages my superiors sent me.
Like โOKโ it depends on context, and irony can be hard to discern online.
It depends on context and conversation. I get ๐ replies to my comments at work which 80% of the time means whatever I'm about to break in the code base nobody is currently working on.
No, I see it as friendly, but I receive them from my friends. I think if you have a doubt in the relationship already you are more likely to interpret any short reply as rude than if you are confident in what your relationship means to them.
Generally, I do not. But Iโm sure there is a scenario where it is used as a rude way to terminate a conversation.