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Hey dad, I know that we've not been close for quite some time now. I really hope that at some point that could change, but for right now, all I want is for you to say that you are proud of me. It really hurt when you didn't even aknowledge me getting my A-levels years ago, and that when I got my Bachelor's you told me that all students are stupid.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 weeks ago

I am so proud of the person you are. You are deserving of so much love. We all love you.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 weeks ago

I am proud of you!

I am proud of your persistence in front of difficulties and challenges. I am proud of your achievements.

I am proud of you even if I haven’t told you before, I am proud even if I belittled you, even if I fucked up.

My behaviour and response to your efforts has nothing to do with you. Not a justification but it is about with my (generational) trauma and lack of seeing my own achievements. I would apologise for all the pain I caused to you if only my trauma allowed me to see, feel and realise all the pain I caused.

I think that, above all, I am proud that you are not repeating my own journey and you are a much better person than me.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 weeks ago

I was proud of you the day you first said dad.

I was proud of you the morning you first started to crawl

I was proud of you the first time you took a step

I was proud of you when you had your first day of school

I was proud that you stuck with education when I knew you were smart enough to succeed without a teacher telling you what to learn. Sorry that I wasn't that great at expressing that. I am still working on that.

And yeah, I probably should have spent more time telling you that. I guess I still have a good bit more to learn about being a good father but don't for a minute mistake that failing of mine as that you are not the son that I am proud of.

I am proud most of all that you are a good and decent person and not just for the first time.

Every day.

-Love Dad.