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[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

I've become the very thing I swore to destroy

[–] [email protected] 17 points 5 days ago

Because homo is Latin for "human" 🤓

For context: I'm very intelligent

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

i'm being biphobic thank you very much, harrumph

[–] [email protected] 47 points 5 days ago (2 children)

My favorite game is "everyone is valid apart from me".

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago

Oof, that was me. Grew up in a homophobic society and decided I was able to make a choice (I was actually bi nb). Kept a facade going for decades fueled by self hate.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago (2 children)

For me my favorite is the, "Maybe I'm actually gay and in denial?" Which quickly flips to, "Maybe I'm actually straight and in denial?"

Ah the bi-cycle, how I love and hate it. It's my life though so meh, the party will continue. Lol

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

As an aro/ace I'm faced with the opposite. How can I truly know that something isn't there. Though these days I've mostly accepted that I can be pretty sure after 30 years of existing. And if it turns out another wayat some point, then so be it. The label doesn't define who I am, who I am defines the label

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

Not to mention that for some people their labels change with time

We're all different and that doesn't make any of us less valid

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago

"An aggressive commitment to non-commitment" pretty well describes all the bisexuals I know, so you're in good company at least