This is a women-only discussion community. If you do not identify as a women or fall under the umbrella cited in the community sidebar, then please refrain from posting or replying.
We're fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women's issues without hostility.
Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!
I'm over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don't see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.
I'm not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. "PROGRESSIVE" space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I'm so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.
Good luck, sisters. I'm desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it does a home.
We appreciate the sideline supporters who respect the community rules & expectations and are respectful enough to not interject. You are very much loved and respected, brothers. 🫶
EDIT: This community & its moderators have been nothing but kind & respectful to men who post here, and are constantly shit on & downvoted because of it.
I have resorted to being hostile! And I see very little difference in how this is being received compared to them.
My blood pressure too high rn.
EDIT 2: Mods.. I'm sorry for leaving you to find this dumpster fire of a thread! I gotta go to bed and I'm sick of trying to explain things to people who don't actually care or want to understand.
Women: attempt to foster & curate their own community to talk about women-centric issues and experiences without being drowned out by majority voices
The rest of Lemmy:
It's frustrating. It feels like even progressive men here (not all, but many) aren't willing to listen, while making it all about them. And because of the vast male majority, it feels like most threads on womens' issues consist of off-topic defensive comments. I don't recommend Lemmy to women either.
That being said, you're all worth it. Reddit as a whole isn't what it once was. And womens' Reddit communities tend to have lots of people, which can sometimes lead to negative spiraling when bad things happen. I get it, but it would make my mental health worse.
On Lemmy, it's a small, friendly space much like the old internet. I recognize a lot of the same folks on these communities. We uplift each other.
Lots of people here can very hostile about us being here, but we're making this place a little friendlier and more inclusive, and I'm glad we're all here. We've got each other's backs.
I mentioned this in past messages that got deleted (not by the mods here).
But basically this is what women's groups in uni were like for me when they tried inviting "allies" from among male students. These well-intentioned (I have to stress this, they were not being jerks deliberately!) men would come to meetings and by the end it was only the men talking.
It's just in the nature.
This is why we went back to "women-only" groups with occasional "open house"-style gatherings which were just social events.