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I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years. I want to surprise her by proposing to her and being all fancy for our hangout soon, but I don’t want to move too fast. 3 years should be fine, right??

Anyway, I’ll tell you how it goes!!

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 week ago (4 children)

A lot. We both want to move to possibly Japan together and get married. My family loves her and her family loves me.

I would not propose unless we talked about it, but she says often that she hopes we get married and that she wants to marry me.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Err, just be aware that Japan does not (currently) recognize same-sex marriage, although some local governments offer unofficial perks to couples. That should change with the pending supreme court case, but the government has a history of dragging its feet on things it really doesn't want to address.

Other than that it's pretty awesome here :3

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Aaa, to be fair, she lives in Spain. I wish they did recognize it in her home country though! Maybe when we go to Japan, they’ll recognize it or we get married in the U.S or Spain or something

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That sounds solid.

That being said I do recommend living together before deciding if you wanna get married. Whole swathes of compatibility aren't really explored until you're living together.

Not saying you shouldn't propose if you aren't living together, though.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Thank you!! She said yes at the restaurant we went to

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

Thanks!! ❤️

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

she says often that she hopes we get married and that she wants to marry me.

That seems like a green light to me.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

What if she’s Canadian?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

I will do it! 👍

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Sorry this isnt a very serious response, but the clarity of her intention to marry you strongly reminded me of this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago

I still can’t tell if she’s into me even though she asked me to marry her! Maybe she just is looking for someone to marry!! That’s all

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

😂 I’m watching it right now