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To answer your question a bit better, it can mess with everyone's sense of "normal". My oldest sibling is intersex and experienced this a lot growing up because she has been said to have both male and female traits, which caused a lot of mix-ups about her identity, something that made her somewhat of an outcast in peer situations because people of all genders/sexualities thought of her as not one of them due to falling into the cusp so-to-speak. My second-oldest is transgender and he came to terms with that when I was eight years old, partly inspired by the fact that people who remembered or knew my oldest sibling would remark how unlike himself he seemed, echoing a feeling he had around others, disconnecting him from a vital part of society. I am neither intersex or transgender but have been in a similar situation due to stereotypes about asexual women like myself, aspects of how I look and act, and false gossip spread by even your other repliers that many people for some reason see as male-centric. You get lumped into so many different things. Many people take the mindset to an extreme length and unevenly distribute benefit of the doubt depending on who we are. So in a sense, your question is almost like asking about the caste system.

OK I'm a bit confused. Could you use fake names instead of they?