Too Afraid To Ask

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I’m too afraid to ask because it seems really stupid or pathologising or whatever, but are these normal aspirations? (lemmy.ml)

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Or narcissistic behavior like some people have said?

From my friend Jaiden that I posted about, just curious.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Sounds like my ex. Terrified to show vulnerability, since it was always horribly punished by the abuser, so they endlessly deflect blame onto others. And it's not just a tactic, but an all-encompassing delusion that cannot be reasoned with and they don't even see. And unfortunately, healing begins with being vulnerable, accepting responsibility, and trusting in others that want to help you.

(Not responsibility for why they are that way, but responsibility for how their actions hurt others and taking responsibility for healing, since no one else can do it for them.)