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To be clear, I never intended to scam anyone or anything like that. When I asked for money for a new battery for my car, or whatever, I wasn’t lying. I never intentionally misrepresented my needs. I’m just fucking stupid. I would ask for money for some particular thing, and then instead of holding onto it and being responsible, oops!, I’d go buy something stupid, and no, I don’t mean drugs (I need to clarify something about this, down-comment 👇).
I did not spend all or even most of that $4,000 on drugs.
I am a drug addict. So I do sometimes spend some of the money I’m sent on drugs. Some, but never all. I am not the stereotype you probably have in your head: drugs are not the most important thing to me. When I asked for money for a particular thing, that particular thing is what comes first. When I ask for money for gas for my car I NEED GAS FOR MY CAR.
If you don’t believe me, whatever. You believe what you want to believe.
I think I’m probably just going to burn this account since I don’t like how this keeps persisting, and I feel like I do owe it to you to not be silent. Since it feels like I caused this mess. I'm sorry for not saying anything earlier.
For anyone else I was the one who gave her the 4,000$. It was from what wasn’t taken by the hospital when my mom died and things were sold off. I don’t have any of what I got from my mom anymore since I gave to others here and elsewhere, but I just wanted to say. It really distasteful and also how to word this. Some of you are doing more than just attacking her and still bringing this up, but also I think genuinely harming things as a whole.
I believe her and trust her that she didn’t spend it all on drugs, and besides that she did use it on her needs and to help herself. and I remember she also used it to help others to in her community, which is really amazing considering her situation to sacrifice like that as well. I also gave her that money all upfront since I didn't want to make her jump through hoops or like make her go through others when she legit needed it more than I did and I still stand by that. And I don’t regret giving it to her.
But it is pretty reactionary and fucked up how a good amount of you immediately go to just blaming her just because of addiction. And it interesting a lot of you are getting mad at her, like I could get mad as that was my 4,000$ but I didn’t. If I’m not mad at her for that, none of you should be either no? Like just let it go, besides it was between me and her, not the rest of you. Like some of you can fuck off for giving indignation. I also gave that much because legit like how is someone suppose to get out of being a situation like she in, if all people do is constantly just give band aids to a bleeding wound?
I dunno, honestly seeing of this stuff just depressing and disappointing. I feel like I just made things worse to be honest.
Assuming you're still around to see this, I think you did the right thing.