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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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OK good it's a relief you have that contingency in place. it sounds like you have a really good support system in place and i'm really glad to hear it
so i guess i'll leave you with my best advice for getting through the time until you start HRT:
really sit and internalize that you are a woman. you might think of it as, the way you look right now, on the outside, is not very much like a woman. in a way, it's the least you'll ever look like a woman. but regardless, you must internalize that you are a woman
which means confronting all of the internal biases you have about what a woman looks like. about facial structure, about facial hair, about your facial hair, if you have it. the way your body looks
you are a woman.
it's hard and it's painful to confront these things. but it's important, not even every cis woman looks how they want to, or might look manlier than they want. but they are still women, and so are you
obviously, you shouldn't come out anywhere you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. but, in the places you feel safe, you should be open about your identity. it's nice to be affirmed. if you can find community irl, that would be helpful, too
you'll probably have to work through a lot of internalized transphobia. i know i did, it took me a long time, and i'm probably still working through things
but it's so so so so SO important to internalize that you are a woman regardless of how you look
it is the antidote to the kind of mind poison that comes from scrolling transition timelines and comparing yourself to faceapp
so many trans girls i know look amazing and beautiful and still see a man in the mirror
start seeing a woman in the mirror NOW, so when you start HRT, you can truly appreciate all of the little changes it bring. or if you get surgery or whatever
you can only see a woman in the mirror when you start telling yourself the person in the mirror is a woman
when you feel that bite and sting of dysphoria, remind yourself that you are a woman
you are a woman. now, before the HRT, before you look how you want to look, before everything - you are a woman
godspeed, i hope everything works out for you