Stop Drinking

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This is a place to motivate each other to control or stop drinking. It is also a place for non drinkers to discuss and share.

We welcome anyone who wishes to join in by asking for advice, sharing our experiences and stories, or just encouraging someone who is trying to quit or cut down.

Please post only when sober; you’re welcome to read in the meanwhile.

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I Need to Quit For Good (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I know this sub isn't very active, but I don't have accounts anywhere else, so here goes . . .

I don't want to get into details right now, but my wife has made me promise to divorce her if I ever drink again . . . my heart is broken for the pain I have caused her to get us to this point.

I feel so stupid that this isn't the first time I've been here, either. I feel so stupid saying "this time it's for real," because we all know what to expect when an alcoholic says that :(

In terms of quantity, I've actually been drinking much less the past few years, but I think the infrequency might even be making my "mistakes" even worse when they happen :( So I don't have the excuse of infrequency. I can truly never drink again, and I'm so afraid I'm going to mess it up. I have CPTSD with terrible emotional flashbacks, and I'm afraid I'll lose control during one of them and ruin my marriage once and for all :(

So this is me, I'm here to join the stopdrinking community. Any encouragement, stories or advice you can give would be most welcome. Thank you.

Edit: Wow, thank you for the outpouring of support! I can't reply to all of your comments, but know that I've read and treasure them!

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

https://www.8n8aa.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Living-Sober.pdf

This is an AA book. That said, it's not the AA Big Book. It's full of useful techniques for staying sober. Things like carrying something sweet to help you fight the cravings, or that you can pick up the phone and call/text someone when you're feeling bad.

One of the best things in it, for me, is "One Day At A Time."

If I'd had to swear off forever I'd have found a million reasons why I was allowed a drink on this 'special' day.

Instead, I just don't drink for the next 24 hours. Anyone can get through a single day.

Good luck.