neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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I am in no way a therapist, and the rest of this will probably sound pretty weird, but I heard it once and it helped me. Especially if you view the voice in your head or inner monologue as something that's sort of separate from "you".
You know that voice inside you that tells you aren't good enough?
Argue with it. Keep asking "why" when you get an answer. If it's fear based, ask it why it's afraid. It might answer, but chances are it will be noncommittal. Reassure it that you've got this and it's worth taking the chance.
If it's a voice that's being mean and calling you names, ask what it based these attacks on and argue in your favor. Listen to who that voice sounds like. Chances are it sounds like a relative, bully or authority figure from your actual life. If that isn't something you realized, this exercise can help you stop listening to it. It feels a lot more like you are interacting with the actual person when you can pinpoint who it sounds like and hopefully your attitude towards it will change.
If you can get to this point with it, either ask it or demand to take the driver's seat for a while. You can even bargain with it if you want and say you'll give back control if it doesn't work out. It's you, so you can go back on your promise to it and nobody gets hurt.
In my experience, it changes my thought pattern for a little while, but it's obviously not permanent. Really, you're just rationalizing better approaches to your own fears or anger.
This next thing is a lot more drastic and probably illegal depending on where you are. Psychedelic mushrooms. Big disclaimer. Do some research before you even consider getting a hold of some. They have been known to be harmful to people with certain neurodiverse conditions. They also have a tendency to drag up past traumas so you can process them. Some people aren't interested in doing that, and that's what is known as a "bad trip".
You don't need to take a "time to meet God" dose to get fantastic results for mental health. Particularly depression and anxiety. My experience has been that they take all my anxieties and fears and bad thoughts and wipes them away like cleaning off a whiteboard. Or running a defrag on a computer. It's a mental reset that in my experience lasts up to two weeks. With as little as a quarter of a gram, you can feel results. If you're interested, look up micro dosing.
Good luck, and good vibes. We all care about you and need you in the coming revolution
Anecdotally, I felt a lot better when I looked around and realized nobody in my family could tell me I am not doing the "right thing". I'm married, we bought a house and I have a steady job. Not that people have to take that path, but it's what makes me feel grounded. I have a better relationship than my parents, nobody can tell me I'm being irresponsible and possibly mean it... There's a strength in having your personal affairs in order the way you want them.
With the talking to your inner voice thing, I find that speaking out loud really helps--fighting on your own turf, so to speak.
Yes. I do it in the shower or in the car. It helps if you imagine it as a little gremlin or Smurf or whatever helps. Whatever you imagine it as, try to make it something that is smaller and weaker than your actual self.