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Rough. Can't find any jobs in my town besides factories and trucking, so I guess I'm probably gonna go work in a factory.
Lymph nodes been swollen for three days and I can't get to a doctor for nine more days, so that's frustrating.
I feel lonely and detached all the time. I miss when my friends and I were close. I've tried meeting new people but it's not the same.
If I'm not too tired after work tomorrow I'm planning a solo trip, just for the evening. There's a park an hour away where I've heard you can see the stars, so maybe I'll hit the local shops and grab an ice cream or something and wait til sundown. Maybe that'll cheer me up.
Give it time. New friends are made by spending time with strangers until they're not strangers anymore. If the new people are nice enough, and you get to hang out with them for a while, some of them will probably turn into friends. You're already on the right track by getting to know new people.
Thanks. I'm just getting discouraged because conversations fizzle out eventually, or things go well at first but then they stop texting back. It takes so long to get to know people and it feels like it usually goes nowhere even when I think they're really cool.
FWIW - as a person guilty of sometimes not texting back: most of the time it's not because I don't want to talk to that person, it's because I don't have the time and/or energy to write something worthwhile, make a mental note to text back something witty 'later', and you can probably guess where this is going.
How’s the lymph-node feel? Sore, or no pain? I had lymphoma back in 2020, my lymph-nodes at the time weren’t sore (didn’t hurt at all, even when touching them) and were hard as rock due to the tumors. If yours are sore and not rock hard that may actually not be the worst thing, but you most definitely need to see that doctor in 9 days!
Oh shit, I hope you're doing okay these days!
Mine are occasionally sore, but most of the time they're just tender to the touch. They are pretty hard, too 😬
Thanks ☺️ I got “lucky” getting lymphoma lol it’s aggressive but thankfully effectively treatable! We caught it when it was stage 3 progressing to stage 4, and after 6 “memorable” rounds of chemo I’m 5 years out and tentatively in the clear! Helps I got it when was 27, so I was a bit more durable lmao
Tenderness ain’t a bad thing at all! Hopefully put your mind at ease a little while you wait for your appt lol
I know that this may sound trite, but it isn't and I mean it with the best intentions. This tough spot you are in right now is only temporary. It will soon pass. Hold your head high. You are not alone.