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Who of you want or don't want children? I am just curious because most people that I talk to don't seem to want it. I mean leftist (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 days ago by Confidant6198@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/27368980

I am curious if the majority of leftist people don't actually want children haha. There doesn't seem to be any studies about it, but my convos with leftists is that most don't seem to want to have children either for the uncertainty of the future or because they are too expensive or because it wouldn't give them too much time to organize or whatever other reason that I forgot about.

I personally lean on not having children because I have been laid off of several jobs and having someone financially dependent to me scares the shit out of me and would put my stress levels through the roof.

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[–] vvilld@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I am very much a leftist (anarchist, to be specific). I have 2 kids and I absolutely LOVE being a dad. It's the single most fulfilling and enjoyable thing I've done in my entire life.

If you don't want kids, that's perfectly fine. Kids need a loving an nurturing home, and if someone is unwilling to provide that, they shouldn't have kids just to have them. But I also don't think there's anything wrong with having kids if you want them.

From an ideologically leftist perspective (which absolutely should NOT be the determining factor in having kids), remember how much focus the fascists put on family and kids. They are having plenty of kids who will be raised with their fascist ideology. Do you really want the generation who will be running the world when we're old to be entirely raised by fascists?

I didn't have kids because of my politics, but I'm happy to know that at least 2 future adults will be raised by me with my values.

most don’t seem to want to have children either for the uncertainty of the future or because they are too expensive or because it wouldn’t give them too much time to organize or whatever

I'd just say that every single one of these factors has been in play for virtually all of history and yet people still had kids and were able to do great things. John Brown had like 20 kids, but that didn't stop him from fighting slavery. Nestor Makhno had a daughter. Our world is nowhere near as dire as the one Makhno lived in, and he built an entire anarchist society. What do you think the birth rate in places like Rojava is?

These aren't very good reasons to not have kids, they're just justifications people pull out when they feel like saying "I just don't want kids" isn't good enough. It is. if you don't want kids, that's fine. Don't try to make up some reason why others who do shouldn't.