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I can see where you're coming from and I kind of agree, from my perspective - and perhaps many other people's perspectives - being able to attach a label to myself after some exploration and introspection really helped me get things straight in my head. I felt much better about myself along the way when I was able to say "I'm asexual", then again when I was able to say "oh shit I'm agender too". I struggled more with "oh shit I'm transfem too" but that's partly because of all of the everything going on in the world lately and also because now I'm aware of dysphoria in a way I wasn't before I put a label on it. Overall, mixed result 🤷♀️
I think what we should be aiming at is not clinging rigidly to labels - it should be treated as OK and normal for people to think about their labels and if they still really feel like those labels fit at every point in the process. We treat it as relatively normal for someone to go "I think I'm straight?", "oh no wait, I think I'm bi?", "oh wait no, I think I'm gay", for example, but then we treat that final stage as the final stage, like now you're gay and it's set in stone.