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humble, introverted self asks for your advice about human behavior at the workplace. Please read below: (linux.community)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/1195222

Im introverted and have always enjoyed my solitude. Some people have complained that I don't talk much, which is true, I don't need to talk to feel good.

After changing workplaces, I decided to be proactive and introduce myself to my new coworkers. I was friendly and did it properly: my name, smiley face and what I do, eager to help them.

Some of them are friendly, greet back when I greet, but jesus christ, others outright avoid even eye contact with me like the plague, even though I kept greeting them for at least 2 more days.

Now I've returned the favor and I ignore them, not even asking them to do anything for me because last time I did, one of them said she would take a batch of documents to a nearby department but then outright ignored it and I had to do it myself.

It's also a bit funny: 2 coworkers that the first day had small but normal conversations with me now look elsewhere when they see me... and I give them back the same treatment. Childish and petty? extremely, but I ask you: what should I do?

Introverted me says: what were you expecting? This is what people are, don't bother trying to be extroverted, see what this brought you, return to your introverted self, do your job and go home, but this might sabotage me.

I confess neither do I know how to react when people are friendly when I'm talking to a coworker they like but the moment this coworker leaves, they turn to a mute.

To me, those of you who can play this silly workplace theater so well are geniuses. I cannot fake that a boring person interests me, nor can I fake respect for a person who treats me like I described.

I'd like to read your feedback.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

You did a good thing and got out of your comfort zone and engaged in a friendly manner. However, it takes practice, and you may have given off a "used car salesman" vibe or some other vibe without meaning to. Also, some of your new coworkers could be very introverted or even snobs. You can't control other people, only yourself. Give it some more practice, but maybe dial it down a few notches. Trust has to be earned in both directions and this can take a long time in some work environments.