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The Ukraine-born winner of the Miss Japan beauty pageant has given up her crown after a tabloid report revealed her affair with a married man.

Karolina Shiino, 26, was crowned Miss Japan two weeks ago but her win sparked public debate due to her heritage.

While some welcomed the naturalised citizen's crowning, others said she didn't represent traditional Japanese beauty ideals.

Amid the furore, a local magazine published an expose alleging an affair.

The article in the Shukan Bunshun reported that Ms Shiino had engaged in a relationship with a married influencer and doctor. The man has not provided any public comment.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (2 children)

The person who committed to a monogamous relationship is at fault - not the unattached person. When you enter into a monogamous relationship you agree to a contract with your partner even though you know you'll, at times, be tempted to violate it. Cheaters are fucking assholes but "home wreckers" aren't seducing their partner to do anything they wouldn't do anyway. Don't be a jerk and purposefully try to pursue someone in a monogamous relationship... but if it happens it's the person violating their relationship rules that should carry the vast majority of the blame.

Just as a historical aside "the other woman" was often considered at fault because... you guessed it misogyny! The husband couldn't be at fault it was a temptress that lured him to do wrong. We're moving beyond this impression as a society but you'll still see it occasionally.

And, if you think monogamy won't work for you then be up front about wanting an open relationship... this isn't the 1800s, it's perfectly acceptable to have a non-monogamous relationship... just respect your fucking partner(s).

[–] [email protected] -1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

The husband couldn’t be at fault it was a temptress that lured him to do wrong. We’re moving beyond this impression as a society but you’ll still see it occasionally.

We should move away from it but we should be aware that it's ingrained in our genetics and emotional responses. A man sleeping with married women is a reproductive strategy that paid of many times - reproduction without material cost. A women in a materially stable marriage that is sleeping with a beautiful or strong man is improving her genetic lineage too. And the balance of power for sexual selection is somewhat wonky.

I'm not advocating any naturalist bullshit but we inherit some icky garbage from our evolution and evolved some social behaviors to deal with them (e.g. stoning adulterers). Some behavioral patterns and emotional responses won't go away easily and can't be easily negated using purely intellectual arguments.

My point is that it's at least ok to find Karolina Shiino less popular after knowing she had an affair. Especially for something as superficial and primitive as a beauty contest.

as a temptress that lured him to do wrong. We’re moving beyond this impression as a society but you’ll still se

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

just respect your fucking partner(s).

Not too bad to extend that to “respect people” eh? Fellow sufferers of the human condition.

We’re all adults, we all know hurt - I’d feel guilty if I were involved with a cheater, and I think that’s a good thing for humanity.

Glad we’re leaving that temptress narrative behind for sure.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

Oh, definitely, respect everyone... but if you enter into a monogamous relationship then especially respect your partner. And the unattached person should feel guilty if they knowingly let themselves be used to violate a relationship... but they remain the less guilty party.