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ways to cope with breakup and relationship stuff? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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i'm gay and he and i are both in our early 20s. hes addicted to gaming and barely wanted to talk to me. he got mad and "didn't wanna talk to me every day or 24/7" but then he said he was sorry for saying that.

i recently broke up with him and i kind of miss him because in retrospect, our relationship may have actually been healthy. sure, we didn't have the same interests and such, and he wanted me to pay attention to his but rarely did to mine, but what if he was actually a really good boyfriend?

he did say he never loved me when we broke up, but he could have just been mad. he even apologized but i blocked him. i'm trying to get over him but i do wonder if he was actually a great guy and not just a great friend, but a great boyfriend too. we get mad sometimes, after all. all of us.

and i didn't text him 24/7 like he said nor every day but he would be playing games or leaving me on read anyway and barely speaking. once he said I could speak to him every day, I did, and he barely talked to me and said he didn't know what to talk about.

but he always had a good word for everyone, still does considering we just broke up :)

please, i'm going through a tough time so no criticism/attacking against me or anyone, i'm not in the mood or ready for it yet, i just need comfort.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago

It’s your prerogative to choose if you want him in your life. The time right after breakup is always the hardest and we often want the comfort of the person who has been the most important to us back in our lives.

Having both indulged and avoided letting the relationship start back up, my personal choice in your situation would be to let it go. Breaking up hurts, but not forever.

People are sometimes hurt and lash out during breakups, and you're right to be skeptical of his words, but sometimes you just have to let people tell on themselves and accept what they say.