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Something that helped me a little is that, if anything, these feelings are an exhibition of our sisterhood with all other women. Even as much as they wish they didn't, 99.9% of women regardless of gender at birth, wish they could change their looks in some way, wish they could remove that thing they're most insecure about. All we can do is the same that all other women do, find the version of ourselves that makes us the happiest.
But inside that there also has to be some realism. The ladies we envy, the models and movie stars and idols and influencers and who ever else, they are a statistically tiny portion of the population. There's a couple of billion women who will never, and could never, look like that and that's okay. We are probably one of them, and that's also okay.
Most of them don't actually "look like that." They are photographed from the best angles with expensive camera equipment and lighting. Then they select the best photos from a series of mediocre to great shots. These selected photos are often then edited. There are billions of women who could look like that if they had $20k to drop on a professional makeover and photoshoot