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he wants you to break up with him so he doesn't feel bad.
he says he needs me and all that stuff, that i’m the only one who can help him, but he’s sick of talking to me, so that latter part is obviously a lie. maybe he just thought he did. he says i’m such a good person but he doesn’t even like spending time with me anymore even though he says he likes me.
he doesn’t want me to leave him and also i need to help him because he’s suffering. he’s always suffering and he needs me. it hurts. he hurts me. his behavior and his situation, but i like him a lot.
he said “please don’t leave me!!” When i said we were breaking up so i got back with him but i’ll leave now
Dude needs to make up his mind. But more than that, I think this is something you should leave for your own sanity.
If he doesn’t know what he wants, then a relationship is not what he needs right now. He needs to fix whatever is going on with himself and then he can worry about bringing someone else in.
I wouldn’t ever feel comfortable bringing someone into my life if I didn’t know what I wanted, relationship-wise. That seems disrespectful to practically waste someone else’s time who may have an idea of what they want and are going for it. Whereas this guy isn’t sure whether he wants you to stay or go. That’s not cool. That leaves you in a position like you’re feeling now, unsure about whether tomorrow will be the same or if he’ll wake up and decide this is it. You want to be confident of where you stand with someone you’re romantically involved with, not constantly questioning your position.