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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I feel like the idea that women are otherworldly creatures instead of people and seeing someone being nice to their partner as "the man having tamed a female and convinced her to treat him well" has a lot to do with his problem.

I hate how much that is preserved socially, there's no good reason why that hasn't gone away at least a decade or two ago.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Totally agree. I've been in a relationship for 5 years now, and it most definitely didnt involve me trying to tame her 🀣

It was just luck to meet. We both liked each other. That's literally it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You started with "pspspspsps" and some snacks and you know it

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Don't forget the flowers

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The important feat is making yourself into a person that the other person would like to have in their life and makes their life better.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah, seeing them as a person seems like a crucial part in that equation.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's learned helplessness. Once they get rejected 15 times in a row for being a weirdo or something similar, they start to think in that instead of either reflecting back on the experience and trying to be better, or looking elsewhere.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Simply going from zero self improvement to nonzero may not be enough. That’s why we call a situation like this a hole. A person in a hole needs to climb to get to ground level.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

well yeah i get how you can start doubting yourself after that. sad as fuck.