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Pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual are all microlabels and are all subsets of bisexual. You don't need more labels than gay, straight, and bi.
Edit: I forgot about asexuals. But I specifically only care about bi subsets. They're dumb, and you only need bi
As a pansexual I feel that Bi and Pan have enough differences to both be justified while the others are micro labels (not invalid, just less useful as labels).
But I recognize I'm drawing that line very conveniently for myself.
Here's an unpopular opinion: you don't need any labels at all. You love who you live, you fuck who you fuck, you can advertise what you're looking for if you want to but all this identity business obscures the reality that humans are far more diverse and interesting than the boxes we build for ourselves.
Most people who call themselves straight would fuck someone from their own gender if there weren't cultural expectations against it hammered into them from and early age. Most people who call themselves gay would wander if they found someone they connected with. Very few of us rest at one end of any spectrum or matrix. Most of us are somewhere in the middle, and far more mobile than we might realize.
Atheism isn't a religion, likewise asexuality is not a sexual orientation, but the lack of one, I say.
Upvoted, but I have a slight disagreement. I think bisexual should actually be a label under pansexual. Bisexual doesnβt necessarily account for anyone outside the gender binary.
Yes it does. Read the bisexual manifesto.
Out of interest, why? Shouldn't it be the other way around, that bi is a subset of pan?
Read the bisexual manifesto. Bi has always included nonbinary people. If you are attracted to all genders, both bisexual and pansexual are valid labels you can choose.
If we're splitting hairs, bi should be a sunset of pan.
Also, there is some need for a fourth "none of the above" label...
And here I thought pansexual meant you really like cookware.
Is that really what you thought, or just an attempt at humor? Be honest ;)
I agree. All the little bitty addages don't make sense. You can be bi and still have preferences. Just keep it simple gosh dangit.
Not understanding what words mean isn't an unpopular opinion, you're just wrong
Not about the first bit, that's arguable
You definitely DO need more labels than straight, gay, and bi. For example: asexual or sapiosexual, those don't fit into any of the 3 you listed
I guess we found the actual unpopular opinion on this.
That's a very silly name, I love it.
Haha, thanks!
Sapiosexual means you have a preference for smart people. Its not a sexuality.
Can't agree more. The microlabels are too much at this point. You do not need mix sexual orientation, which is the sex we are naturally attracted to, with having preferences, which are the qualities we find attractive in a person or a relationship. The two are completely separate.
And asexual
But I agree. The bi community already collectively decided we are trans and nonbinary inclusive. We don't need to further separate it out.