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Do you have favorites or specific list preferences about trivial things like color or music? (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I always feel awkward when asked my favorite color, song, or any other type of trivial question. I have my standard responses I remain consistent with over time, but they are only consistent lies. Are those types of questions fundamentally awkward to you too?

I like things that look nice. I may lean toward one color or another at times, but I would never seek out the color before or to the exclusion of something that looks nice. It feels like color prejudice or something to say I have a favorite. I'm open minded to all colors in any situation more like an artistic mind I guess. That is the kind of thought process I go through when I'm asked to pick my favorite (x). I want to respond with the equally vague questions of when and what circumstances.

Some may call it over thinking, but what use is there in saying you have a favorite when in reality it is more complicated. Like, is that favorite song playing at a wedding, a house party, and a funeral. Or, are all your clothes your favorite color.

What do you think a person's response to such questions says about them, their depth, curiosity, and open mindedness?

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago

I think the reason is that it becomes yet another unique identifier to make you feel like your own person. When we say our favorite color is X or our favorite song is Y, we're not just literally stating those things, we're choosing those also based on what they might say about us.

Your "favorite song" may not mean you only wanna listen to that one song forever because it's better than any other, but you might expect it to give people a certain baseline understanding of your tastes, not only artist wise, but even within their catalog, maybe that song is old and super niche, maybe it's a popular banger.

Colors have long had particular emotions or traits associated with them, and you might pick a favorite color with that in mind, and your favorite color could change, if you want to answer somebody with your immediate favorite color based off what might represent how you're feeling right now, then I think that's a fun answer, too.

These are opinion based questions, they can't be wrong, even your non answer says something about you and your analytical nature.