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Examples of how toxic masculinity and the patriarchy affects life presented in speech rather than a bullet point list. These terms are describing social structures and expectations. Not about hating individual men. The examples all are absolutely negative products of hegemonic masculinity. Look into sociological/gender studies/anthropology resources on the subject. I don't have the bandwidth to try and give you a primer on these schools of study, but they readily exist.

The DAILY DOUBLE! Woo.

Real talk. The effects of toxic masculinity are tangled up everywhere, in everything, crossing the blood-brain barrier like micro plastics. If you honestly think it don't exist, it's big sign to me that you are wrapped up in it to drowning. People shut down empathy as a trauma response, or because they're trying to replicate behaviors of a perceived 'in-group' (this would be the patriarchy) to gain acceptance. Either way it's got you. We're talking a nationwide ban on healthcare based on gender for half the country, and you don't see it? You don't think having healthcare is pretty fucking foundational? Is it 1 in 3 women who live under a ban in America now? Having your leaders celebrated for sexual violence not cast down ain't a sign to you? 'Grab 'em by the pussy' is running neck and neck for one of the most powerful executive positions in the world. We're criminalizing men who wear feminine attire, policing who is woman enough to piss where. The right just fell over itself to mock a kid who was proud to tears of his father. God forbid a man express joy. I keep getting texts from friends floored over the photo of Walz getting bunny eared by his smiling kids. There's a big reason why seeing them so completely unafraid to tease their father in public is resonating with people.

I'd like to take 'repression, and over-compensating' for 500 Alex.

I'm not going to argue which gender is the bigger victim of toxic masculinity. The bodies are stacked too high for me to see over. But please don't say it impacts 'much less than a percentage of 1%.'

Like, my father used to tie up my dog and whale on it with a belt when he was angry and that's probably the least fucked-up-thing-your-dad-did story of my peer group. If you don't think it's affected you, you are either very lucky, or somebody who is long overdue to talk it out.

I've been screamed at a lot for daring to sit at the short edge of a rectangular table while in the presence of a man. Does that count for father-daughter lessons? This thread is wild.

I'm stuck on the convincing people it exists step—too much of an asshole to be an ambassador I guess. Fight for public schools, and access to healthcare, and the arts. No better tools than health, knowledge, and a shared language of empathy. Embrace every opportunity to put self-sufficiency back in the hands normal people instead of further consolidating under the control of rich white fucks. Even if it costs you something, or if you won't see the benefits right now. Buy local. Try and keep those profiting from your labor within metaphorical punching distance, should they ever need a metaphorical pop. Show up for local elections, run in local elections if you have a soul. If you care and are willing to learn you will be a godsend to some of your local boards.

The more the ruling elite have, the more they rig the system for themselves, the more the way to squeak up or cling to a rung on the ladder of prosperity is to emulate them, the more a narrative of superiority calcifies, the more stratified and shit people become. Trump tells them that's fine, the truth is what feels the most comfortable. Not to think critically about how we got here because for his ilk the system is lining the pockets intended. Tells them to stop doing the painful work of looking within and pulling up any pernicious roots they might have grown out of; that it is okay to close their eyes to any consequences and causation if it makes them uneasy. Rural places more vulnerable to Trump's rhetoric are more than capital poor. There's nothing there to shake up these narratives before they harden and he's telling them that's not a tragedy, but cause for celebration.

Vast inequality in a society built upon a white supremacist/patriarchal power structure.

God I picked a shit time to tune in. They should have gone with the sax.

Hm. You seem to contain multitudes. Perhaps literally.

Absolutely rage bait. Imo the language might read as non combative, but in application it feels like just a blind to slip a ban. Read through some of their exchanges with Mx. SMCF; it's pointing a hand in somebody's face and using the 'I'm not touching you' of defenses.

Hm. Does this line of argument want me to be displeased with AOC? Or to wave off the disporportional hardship and ruin metered out by Hyde? It's a mixed up, muddled up, shook up world and I'm gonna haveta to admire AOC and still remember the faces of those would advocate roadblocks to basic rights in the off chance our paths cross in hell. 🤷‍♂️

It gets tacked on to that which must pass, yes, but I was under the impression years ago he was a more stalwart supporter of it-which to his credit, he's done a complete 180 on in recent years.