That's terrible, I hope it all worked out, but absolutely never say anything until you've both signed a contract unless you're looking for a counter offer, which is risky AF.
People pull out of informal agreements all the time, it's not an employer thing - legal issues, real estate, appointments, competition prizes, dates...
After a couple of bad questions, I'll either excuse myself, suggest we carry on separately, or (ideally) ask to be sent a list, for me to ignore at my leisure.
Sorry Greg, we're not here to answer your dumbass questions, or indulge your hypothetical edge cases.
See, there's a huge different for me between "people" and "my people" - they can be two separate groups of strangers, but I can tell them apart in seconds.
In the rare times I want to socialise, my quest is to minimise contact with the former and maximize the latter.
Yeah, for a fair comparison the standard definition of "active user" is just viewing posts. Not sure why Lemmy sets the bar so high. Maybe they don't care about vanity stats - besides mild curiosity, I couldn't care less.
Posting or commenting seems more like "contributing users" and posts like this just encourage unhelpful noise.
And within 12 hours, have forgotten 90%