I'm in the same boat and also looking for a privacy-respecting platform for communicating with family and friends. So I'd also like to add items that are not yet mentioned to the list of suggestions:
- Jami
- Peer Calls - can be selfhosted; you can try it out straight away using their flagship instance located here.
Definitely best to get that done ASAP. Forgejo being a drop-in replacement for Gitea won't be guaranteed ever since the hard fork: