dandelion

is there a history I don't know about? lol

Been planting tulips, hyacinth, crocus, and peony. Need to plant my garlic!

Adoption isn't an option when there is a miscarriage. Women are dying because miscarriages can't be properly dealt with due to anti-abortion laws.

Example: https://www.propublica.org/article/josseli-barnica-death-miscarriage-texas-abortion-ban

MSNBC was reporting that Harris lost support among the youth compared to Biden in 2020: Biden had a 24 point lead among voters age 18 - 29, and that was cut in half to a 13 point lead for Harris.

Among young men, Harris had only a 2 point lead, but among young women Harris had a 36 point lead - so it was heavily dependent on gender.

Moving away from age, it was also surprising that Biden had a higher margin with women than Harris ended up with. Biden's lead with women outstripping Trump's lead with men, but Harris's 10 point lead with women was matched with Trump's 10 point lead with men.

yeah, for context I'm a trans woman, this is my community - I personally know trans women who have conceived of themselves as just femboys, and I've struggled myself for decades with that kind of denial.

Regardless, I consider it a matter of harm-reduction to protect their right to HRT which does require clinicians acknowledging those people are trans. Denying they are trans and are really cis men does undermine the legitimacy of their access to HRT, since it requires a diagnosis and prescription. The way we conceptualize them can have consequences in healthcare contexts.

Furthermore I think we should be prioritizing supporting people embracing what they are and working past that denial (which clearly comes the socially oppressive conditions we find ourselves in, especially the hermeneutical injustice trans people experience and the pressure from transphobic stigma to remain closeted).

Just like the way the gay community tries to help people who are closeted without just forcing them to come-out (just like "men who have sex with men" I pointed out above), we should be clear-headed about the reality that this is closeted behavior while being polite, patient, and supportive as they work through that denial.

Meanwhile, insisting femboys on HRT can only be cis men because that's how they identify comes across to me as particularly ignorant of the reality of how we as trans people struggle to conceptualize themselves and what that process commonly looks like. There is a lot of variety in trans experience, but there are also patterns and trends that emerge, and this greentext captures a very common story of how trans women conceptualize themselves.

I appreciate that you are so sensitive that you are defending the way someone is identifying, that is definitely the right way to go. My point is not to force a perspective on someone, but to clue you into the larger trans context of the greentext which your comments made me think you were oblivious to. Maybe I should have approached that educational moment in a better way, so I apologize for being so glib.

Hope you take care as well - thank you for your response and for being so considerate, it would be nice if more people were like you.

same :-(

nevermind the explicit plans to erase "transgenderism" from public life, which they might be positioned to do if they take the House and thus control all three chambers

Her steps to the right might earn her votes from the educated white neoconservative crowd, I don't think moving further to the left aligns her with swing state voters even if I wish that were the case.

Meanwhile the kids where I am shout "Vote Trump" and have never heard the Hollywood Access tape because they were children when it came out. It's a mixed bag.

uh, my brain is thinking the one about Slurms MacKenzie, I think there was a sewer in that one?

EDIT: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fry_and_the_Slurm_Factory

It depends on the doctor you see. I recommend getting in touch with your local trans community and finding out who provides good care. My endocrinologist lets me lead in my healthcare, so I tried bicalutamide and estradiol valerate injections before switching to just monotherapy injections (where you inject enough estrogen that the testosterone is blocked). He lets me control my own dose and schedule, etc.

The doctor should prescribe you estrogen if you experience dysphoria, they can't force you to continue taking it if you don't want to, and they can't force you to socially transition - but they can write you a prescription based on your dysphoria, yes, and that allows you to try HRT and see how you feel.

I have read that some head hair can come back depending on how long ago it disappeared including hairlines moving down (I've also heard the reverse, of testosterone causing the hairline to recede in trans men), and there are also surgical options I have heard of. My hairline is a major source of dysphoria for me, and I am considering FFS for it. The sooner you get on estrogen the better with this one.

I wouldn't count on height changing by a lot, but because of changes to the curvature of the spine on estrogen you might lose an inch or two - and I have heard this is true from people IRL as well. I haven't yet witnessed it myself, but I'm like 10-ish months on estrogen.

Body hair will change radically, becoming lighter in color and thinner. A lot of my dysphoria comes from body hair as well. I highly suggest looking into laser and/or electrolysis, but those are long-term / permanent changes that you might want to consider after starting estrogen (if you aren't ready to transition yet). You can always do the hair removal without transitioning and it's worth it for how it will alleviate dysphoria, but because it's a permanent-ish change you might just want to give it some thought.

In my experience, once you start making these changes it's so much better with them that you won't want to go back, but you have to try things yourself and see how you will feel - not everyone is the same even if there are common tendencies or patterns.

psh, don't bad-mouth nihilists