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This is what I mean. You've said it in a much clearer way then I could have. The hard part is going to be defining it. Autism is, from what I understand, huge and nebulous. It's not impossible though.

I've been learning project management myself. Trying to get a certification. This is also a huge subject that is constantly growing and changing. As such defining what it is has to have built In subjectivity. Having concrete standards on such a thing is at best messy, but we can do it.

That's just shameful. I got special ed growing up usually they just give us French language education exemptions to take the extra class. It wasn't much, mostly just giving me extra time for homework, in my case it was extra computer usage and typing ( I was the only student getting this in my school) it helped a lot and is a huge part of my current career. I hope Germany realizes its a mistake to deny this critical education.

Oh! Defeating ignorance for sure. Sorry I should have been more clear about that.

My autism is one of the few things I don't seem to hate about myself. And it's also a part of many of those I love and respect. I whouldnt change them for anything.

I just dont like to think of others as being assholes intentionally. I like the idea of Hanlons razor.

Growing up in the early 90s I had thought autism was a form of down syndrome and i was tossing around the R word without a care. But without the internet, and living out in a tiny village, how whould I have learned better? The teachers didn't know, and neither did my parents. It was like autism hadnt been discovered yet.

even if I could tell my past self that he was autistic, he'd have no idea what that means or have any resources to learn about it. I think much of the older generations are still in that state. They've never had to learn what autism is so whatever misinformation they have about it is what they are going with.

We'd need to have everyone unlearn and relearn what they know, and that's a massive challenge.

To be fair most don't even know what it is. Ignorance and stupidity lead to harm. Not to excuse the lack acceptance but understanding it's source is how we can defeat it.

This partly because the science isn't quite there yet. We've come a long way in our understanding but still have far to go I think. unfortunately the general public isn't patient, if the science isn't well established they just seem to ignore it.

There's also still a lack of accessibility for assements and resources. In Canada it took me over 2 years to get my assessment and the process was terribly unorganized. I was told I'd get some free classes on "so your are autistic, now what" but that never came and our provincial primire made huge cuts to our programs (genuinely hate that guy).

This isn't to excuse the "others" but for empathy many of them may be part of our group and not know it.

It's tough but it's on us to reach out to those around us and try to explain things. Pave the way for the autistic folk of the future.

I dream a lot. But I am also on melatonin.

Might be a good fit. I also identify as asexual, though may be more in the grey or semi sexual side of things. The intrusive thinking is something that is strongly mentioned here and something I've been dealing with. It's been causing a lot of my identity confusion.

It is odd to me that even my therapist keeps asking about childhood trauma in regards to some of my issues. Yet as far as I know my childhood was mostly good other then some bullying at school and at home.

I'll look more into this one with my therapist. Thak you for the suggestion.

Fair point. In past cases this had proven to be the case for me. Perhaps is a subtle single to myself that I need more friends, or I should consider dating again, or maybe just get a cat.

Over the past 10years or so a certain factor in my life had made some of these very difficult if not impossible to achieve. I am working to solve that so I may have the opportunity to try these things again.

True in terms of healthy vs unhealthy. But I feel it's an uncomfortable experiance even when healthy.

I admit in my younger years (back in the 90s). I did the unhealthy thing. I think I've written about that on here. I had that obsessive behavure towards someone and embrassed myself terribly. Fortunately no harm was done towards others and I grew out of whatever that was. But that experiance was well beyond uncomfortable it was destructive.

However, now when this kinda thing happens (and it's rare that it does) I realize. it's often temporary. I can draw and boundaries for myself based on what the situation calls for. I'm better at gauging peoples comfort and not being pushy. I don't destroy friendships as I used too.

This discomfort is that feel vaunrable and cautious around those who are being nice to me. I'm not good at masking that one and it can be off-putting. Somtimes I need to distance myself from them which may be harmful to a new friendship.

Definitely a crappy emotion.

Ah. thank you for the explanation.

Newbie question what is tvp sauce? That looks good.

Does it really matter? I'd be surprised if they even read the ballots. I imagine they just get shipped over to a big paper shredder while Putin decides how much he's won by this year

Now I'll throw my money at this and paitently wait for the mods to catch up before ever playing it.