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oldie meme but needed to bring this back due to recent incidents 😭

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

Why do you think you're better than us?

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 days ago

I like that the name of the platform has been written over.

"This is only happening locally here at and not at ". And that's happening for every place in the internet.

Marvellous

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (3 children)

So you're saying Twitter is better?

/jk

Sure, it happens here, but I feel the toxicity on Lemmy is far less then on Reddit or other platforms, and with toxicity I mean including people assuming you're saying something else because they are triggered somehow. But it's very hard not to stumble upon people like that. Trolls rule the universe, they are everywhere.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

I also feel like posts like these are specifically part of the toxicity, encouraging it because "haha funy"

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Just personally, I find that the toxicity around here just around group think is a little worse than reddit. It's different but it can be a lot worse, especially with the way people on Lemmy use downvotes.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It may be less toxic, but that's only if you share the sentiments many lemmy users share. The echo chamber is louder here

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

True. true.. true... true....

But I'm glad I don't have to scroll through loads of right wing extremist posts all the time and constantly have to fight nazis. nazis.. nazis... nazis....

So I'm happy with it. it.. it... it....

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

On the other hand, a failure to make assumptions about what someone is saying leads to people being able either to willfully misrepresent their positions ("Oh, I don't hate waffles, I just bring up how the world would be better without waffles in every conversation, no matter how tangential!") or unintentionally fail to see the necessary implications of their statements ("I'm not saying waffles are better, I'm just saying pancakes are worse!")

All language has some ambiguity, which necessitates assumption in communication.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I just ignore and block if it continues. I got no time for people who are responding to the voices in their head instead of what I'm actually writing.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago

You hate Lemmy????!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

laughs in tumblr

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I think it can be important to see the intent behind words and ask for clarifications. Oftentimes people are not direct about their opinions.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago

yuh, totally! i even experienced an example of your counterexample recently https://lemmy.cafe/post/10752342/8934173

egg on my face, i guess i worded a meme so badly it gave 180 degrees the opposite impression (to some). was super thankful to this user for being transparent and helping me identify what part to edit.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 4 days ago (1 children)

In my experience, this happens way less on Lemmy than on Reddit before the IPO.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

i can’t speak to the frequency but the tone is definitely different when it happens here compared to on reddit, probably influenced by the demographic and field of interest differences. the ml roots of the place really have echoed throughout the tone of the space, so most of the arguments have a really cynical, high alert, almost superstitious affect to them that i never really encountered on reddit. (some random account i thought i was cool with is trying to like psychoanalyze my recent posts to find my true intentions? i gave up on that convo)

your mileage may vary, of course!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

your mileage may vary, of course!

Blocking all of .ml makes your experiences vastly more pleasant

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

I wish I could do that, but sadly the Linux community is barely alive on any instance other than .ml.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I'm convinced that most people don't read anything before sharing their opinion. An opinion with zero relevance or weight is absolutely useless.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

Most people their opinion is based on feelings, which often exist because of a screaming idiot on TV.

For example, my mom wants Islamic people out of this country, because they are criminals and do not belong here. She's lived her entire life in white neighborhoods, never had any experience with crime happening to her by anyone, but she feels this way because of a right wing politician screaming on TV. I have no issues with Islamic people while I live in a neighborhood full is mixed cultures, including many Islamic people. Any factual counter argument I present to my mom feels for her as a personal attack, because I'm attacking her feelings with logic, so the counter attacks with bullshit like "you have no respect to your parents/elders", "I'm not allowed to say anything anymore these days", "what do you know, knowledge comes with the years, I'm older so I know better". She assumes I'm just attacking her extremist comments because of puberty (I'm 37) and to make her feel bad.

I feel like she represents most people, as most people; assuming what people say on TV / internet is true, creating a feeling and opinion based on that which is carved in stone, seeing any counter argument as a personal attack, throwing counter attacks based on words put in other's mouths because attacking that is much easier then properly constructed factual counter arguments (because they don't have any).

FYI I ended all contact with my mom. She's angry about that too, she lacks the ability to see her actions have consequences. Again, like most people.

You say "An opinion with zero relevance or weight is absolutely useless." That is completely true. But those opinions do make people vote in a certain way. They do fuel hate. They do spread fake news. They ruin our society. So even though they have zero relevance and weight, they are super relevant and carry a lot of weight at the same time.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yeah but I preffer the pineapple before the pizza, that way the mass feels saltier.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

No, I dont hate peppino spaghetti.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

So you admit that you're checking me out? And you wanna mate?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Oh sorry I was making a reference to Xavier: Renegade Angel, where Xavier somehow misinterprets the phrase "Checkmate" to be a proposition for sex, from a clone of himself. (One of those.. "Did I watch this at 3am one night or was that a fever dream?" shows)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

bwahahaha good to clarify i would never have guessed that

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