Melbourne

Professional movers are the BEST..I never used them until I had to move at start of lockdown and it was the only choice and now I will scrimp and save and spend that money every time. I think they also love it when they only have a small move and you have taken the time to organise a bit.

You are nearly there!!!

Nice work.

I have cleaned the shower. Aiming to vacuum and put and load in, if I don’t lose my mind to the building works in the meantime.

You sound super organised and motivated. I believe in you!

(Don’t be me. I’ve done enough of that for all of us.)

Assignments are scary. You've got this, Dan!! Props to you for doing a degree. Uni is tough, but you are tougher :)

gees, so many hugs.

You shouldn't be doing this and in the past your dad shouldn't have asked you to do that.

I suggest getting a nurse or aid in to do a lot of that. Contact the hospital about organising one.

and hugs again.

Mate, that's definitely a lot to wear on your own. It's a very delicate situation to navigate. I have absolutely nothing useful to add except that you're an incredibly awesome human and as everyone else has said do talk to others about it (vent here, to a friend, a shrink...) You shouldn't have to go through this alone. I hope this difficult time will eventually (even if painfully at first) bring forward some vulnerability and openness from all parties. Big hugs 🫂

Easier said than done, but you need to allow yourself the space to just be outside this dynamic. This is new territory for everyone and even for those that work in field. We can think or imagine how we’re going to respond or handle something like this, but the truth is we never know until we are in the moment.

I hope that you have people close where you can express this. It might also not be what your father wants to hear right now, but it sounds like your mother needs him as a husband and not a doctor right now. The sooner he hears that, the better. She’s probably scared and she needs to feel like she is more than someone who needs to be treated. You know, patient centered care and being holistic and all that…

Sending you the biggest hugs. Please talk to friends/loved ones/or other if you can.

Heart goes out to you Racer. Navigating this will be a challenge for anyone. We are here for support and venting. There is still a chance that your mum will recover more than present situation too. Sending healing vibes.
You'll need to be there for your dad too - sounds like he might need someone to model how to be human/emotional too. Which is lot to ask but there's not a chance in hell that he'll seek outside professional advice methinks.

So many hugs. Healing is hard, and it takes a lot of time.

I wonder if its the fact that turkeys arnt that common a meal in aus, who more about who I am as a person that my mind goes immediately to uses for a turkey baster.

Suppose it could be all the exposure to IVF and fertility stuff too.

they cant fire you for that. And surely they'd want you to be using leave rather than have to pay you out?

Ooh looks like I'm in time for some Goose! I'll take it Peking duck style please

I had one last week where me and a mate were sitting in a waiting room outside an orgy waiting for it to finish for some reason.