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Well, the assignment is done and submitted. It's not very good. Hopefully it is enough to pass.
I really have no interest/enthusiasm for this subject, but it is compulsory in the diploma. I guess I just see how I go half arsing it and if I fail try to kick myself into trying a bit harder next go around.
I think I'll be happy if I hear a few songs from Ten tonight to be honest.
Thank you everyone for the kindness. I have a big tray of roast veg in the oven so dinner/lunch is sorted and yummy at least. Will be having an early night and hopefully a sleep
I'm eating After Dinner Mints before dinner like a proper rebel.
It’s after 8 somewhere!
They're my chocolate of the month right now. Bought the Aldi ones because they have the little pillowslips. Coles do not.
OK so, if anyone knows the song: Something I can never have by Nine Inch Nails, is it a bit over the top for an open mic?
I'm asking as it's a fairly heavy (on the emotional sense) song.
Maybe not the opener. Do something cheerful (or more cheerful) for that. As a second song on a set it'll be fine - shows off your range. Follow with something more upbeat.
Good point! Thanks for the advice :)
Hahahahahahahahahaha fuck me, of course I had to be careless and hit a kerb so hard I got a flat tyre on top of everything else... perfect timing...
Luckily roadside assist came very quickly but now I need to get a new tyre within 2 days 😭 anyone have tips on how to find a good tyre shop? I have no frigging idea. Need it done pretty quickly...
Google the ones closest to home. Pick the one that's closest to 5 stars and lots of reviews. Get quotes from 3 of them. Pick one.
I had to use MyCar for my last flat because they were the only place open between Christmas and New Year, and they were fine. Quick, efficient, friendly.
Unless you’ve got a mechanic that you usually go to on a regular basis see if there’s a Bob Jane Tmart near you?
Edit: also if cost isn’t an issue you can also maybe try to get someone out to come see you.
Mobile Tyre shop seems to have good reviews
Haven't found a mechanic for this car yet (used to use my old work's one when I was working there, it's too far). Thanks for the rec. Do you think they'll be able to have a quick squizz at the undercarriage to let me know if there's been any additional damage? I'm planning on a long drive over the holidays...
I’m not sure about the mobile one.
Bob Jane checked all my wheels when I got a flat and did a realignment and whatever is standard.
Could ring them up and see if they’ll be able to check for damage on the undercarriage when they change the tyre over.
Okay, scrambled eggs, coffee and overpriced spring water consumed.
Please, please, please, heavy machinery be done when I get back.
That sounds delightful. I too shall make scrambled eggs. (Coupled with leftover brisket)
Yuuum. Brisket. That will be delicious!
just need to get this out but no obligation to read it
I feel really alone right now. I feel like I am drowning at work and my general exhaustion level is so high I am not catching up there or at home. I am wrought with anxiety and I have kinda lost the will to push through. There are so many big things to be done and I am stuck on details. And every time I make time someone else has a problem and I get dragged sideways.
And it's hard to push through when I feel like the world is a mess anyway. What good can I really do? Am I just burning myself out in a corner for nothing?
For reasons the work situation is not a "can you talk to your manager and ask for XYZ" one...what I am carrying is legit mine but I am struggling.
I am just dead sick of being the grown up and the strong one for others right now. I want to go home....whatever that means.
Ughh this feeling of aloneness while being overwhelmed with work, I've felt it so many times. The only advice I can offer is to look after yourself as much as you can. A home cooked meal, going for a walk or doing other exercise, proper wind down before going to sleep. This past weekend wasn't great for me mentally and doing these three things helped.
I get a lot of what you’re talking about, too, especially the close to burnout feelings. Hugs and sympathy from across the ether - you’re not alone 💛
Hey interwebs friend, this is the reason I'm on a sabbatical. Can you afford to take the break even if it means burning through your savings?
I can relate to the loneliness and the feeling of drowning at work.
I don't have any real advice, but I hope you can find some peace soon ❤️
I’m not sure what to say but feel very like this in other ways.
I’m wondering if there’s any way you can half ass some of the details a little bit so you don’t get stuck? I don’t know what you’re working on but sometimes done > perfect
Otherwise you’re well within your rights to insist on the time you’ve carved out so you don’t get dragged sideways.
Taking some leave in whatever form is a good idea because this sounds like burnout.
Whatever happens I wish you can get some peace or rest somehow, even for a moment.
I have three weeks off at christmas, and there are just a couple of really crappy situations to navigate first. I struggle when I can't even see a start. I'm setting a hard "pens down" rule at night so I can get a little bit of relaxattion in each day. Thanks for the thoughts
I've been in a similar place. Can you take some stress leave/sick leave? Ideally at least two weeks so that a) you can unwind properly and b) somebody else has to pick up the slack at work.
Do it now, not once project x is done or when we've met that next deadline. New stuff will keep coming up.
so many hugs
maybe the world and your little part of the world would be a million times messier if not for you
like in Alice in Wonderland, we have to run just to keep in the same place
Since you can't delegate how about resetting your timetable?
On a positive note, it's good they want a grown up and do defer.
Thanks - I'm trying with the timetable, but my body gave up on my overnight and I crash slept in. Luckily I could take the morning off but that's partly why I was feeling down - I desperately need a timetable and can't stick to it. I will persist.
Is stress leave a possibility for you?
Edit: Also, is there anyone close to you that can help with even the smallest of things at home?
yes, take the load off at home
I don't know what the answers are but you've got a friend in me. 💜
Everytime I press the red heart it comes up black. Maybe I've used up my red hearts quota or run out of red ink. 🤷♀️ anyway red heart, red heart, red heart.
red heart red heart back. Thanks. It means a lot having a safe space. I have good real world friends but sometimes I just need a scream into the ether
It’s purple to me?
(I always use black hearts.)
Oh yeah that one is but I like to do red hearts (they keep coming up small and black) because what does any other coloured heart mean?
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