I found an amazing queer salon near me. They are fabulous and exactly what I needed! Came to them when I wanted to try my first femme cut and they walked me through it all. So next time I'm going in I'm having them wax my eyebrows for me. They know I want something feminine and to fit my face but I trust them to know when to use their professional discretion and when to ask for my input ❤️
Maybe look for a queer or trans allied salon you can go to? They can be expensive, but worth it if you find the right one.