Be happy that you lost nothing and gained less toxicity in your life, at best you make a account on a instance that either doesn't federate the .ml instances or one that is blocked by them (like mine) there is a pretty active gaming community on sh.itjust.works, and you can make your own community if you want to.
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Lemmy.ml is doomed. You were unlucky to pick the wrong instance. It's one of the downside of federated Lemmy that .ml is the oldest instance, leading to many cool communities being hosted there. The only way is to start that community on another instance that is not .ml or .world and staying patient.
Hexbear and lemnygrad are not even a choice.
Your community doesn't need to be isolated to a single instance. Your home instance, lemm.ee, can be used as one.
Make your own community on an instance that's not full of assholes
Why is lemmy.ml full of assholes? Wasn't that one of the original lemmy instances? Genuinely asking
It was created by the Lemmy developers and is one of the original Lemmy instances. And while Lemmy itself is fantastic, unfortunately the developers are not. They are tankies, extreme authoritarian communists.
Other than their other instances lemmygrad and Hexbear, lemmy.ml tries to look more moderate and has many active and great communities. But if you post things they dislike, you might run into similar troubles like OP.
It was, but it has communists on it, which is annoying to most large instance owners. So much that they don't even federate with it.
It's the original instance, run by the main Lemmy creators.
As far as I know it was started by the original lemmy developers which made the software because they felt persecuted for their beliefs on normie social media. Lemmy just happened to be around when the reddit CEO decided to f up reddit so everyone started using it despite the creators not being well adjusted people.
Edit: just so I'm not misinforming here's what they said themselves about the origin https://lemmy.ml/post/70319
I don't get how extremist leftist content ends up attracting people who are against woke stuff in stardew really but over time I've gotten the vibe the ml and hexbear people are in general more combative and angry about things.
Oh.
They're libertarians aren't they.
They are actually tankies
...huh. I didn't see that coming.
Honestly better left wing than right wing I think, even if they're stance on the wing is... questionable, to say the least. Though I say that with the benefit of hindsight.
I'm not proud of it, but long ago I myself fell into some of those spaces actually. And not to get into all of it now but I can absolutely see what leads one to have those perspectives, and I also think to some extent I am uniquely qualified to challenge those perspectives becaus, and ofc this doesn't go for everyone, but for many I've associated with the hardline posturing comes more from a defensive paranoia perspective than any will to opress or subjugate anyone. That was certainly always true for me, I'm trans ffs, I never wanted to opress anyone. But the opinion you'll run into at the heart of the authoritative left wing is that control is necessary to secure freedoms and prevent the new society from collapsing from outside influence. If you can challenge that core assumption (and also misinfo about Soviet Union etc. but that's a whole other topic), you can actually make meaningful dialouge.
But by far the thing that kept me in those communities for the longest time was the sense that anyone on the outside would not accept us for our beliefs and could not be trusted, and when all my friends and social connections were in those spaces it was in my interest not to deviate from the line, leading to a kind of spiraling of radical opinions in an echochamber. The thing that brought me out of it was an anarchist extending her hand and us just getting along well on a fundamental level, and not judging me for the beliefs that I'd fallen into or calling me stupid or anything else but just challenging them on an intellectual basis and having evidence to back up her arguments.
I suppose the best takeaway from all of this is that if any time you push someone away, you simultaneously push them closer towards the group that is influencing them. And I get it, sometimes it really isn't worth the energy to deradicalize people, especially those who are truly fargone. But I think it'd be a mistake to ostracize everyone from the outset.
Sorry for the long response, I got a lot more vulnerable here than I was really planning on 😅
Thanks for listening to my ted talk lmaoo
I have no advice for you but as someone relatively new to lemmy I'm trying to understand all this drama. It seems like hexbear is leftist which I thought was cool (full disclosure tho I've not checked it out at all), but this just seems... really extreme. That joke comment reply probably wasn't the best thing to say but it's crazy to me that you didn't even get any dialouge opened up or anything, just an outright ban? And it seems like the person who reported it had no frame of reference for Stardew. Sorry this happened :< Seems kind of knee-jerk on their behalf. I hope you can open a dialogue, clear things up and get your account back <3
I think hexbear started from chapotraphouse refugees when it got banned from Reddit. So it’s leftist but with the toxic culture from that.
What do I do now? Sorry If this was not right community to post this. Bye Tommorow is my exam. I hope I don't fuck it up because of this.
Take a deep breath, make yourself a cup of tea and go through your notes for the exam. Ace the exam!
Then think about which lemmy server you want to start your new stardew valley community on and what your community rules should be.