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Anon quits their job (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

I had an assistant who didn't really need the job, but her parents forced her to have one. She was the youngest, and only girl, of a family of 5 siblings. All her older brothers worked at the race track that their family owned, and she was dating someone they didn't approve of. I liked her boyfriend, he seemed friendly and soft-spoken, but her folks were like "if you're going to date whom you want, you better have a job and live on your own." Well, one day, she got mad because I asked her to work a shift she didn't want to. So she simply didn't show up, which really fucked me over. So I called her up, pretty pissed. No answer.

She didn't show up for 3 days. So I fired her for job abandonment. She didn't really need the job, right? Her parents owned a racetrack.

A week later, her folks called me, and asked if I'd seen her. No, she didn't show up for work ever again. They panicked. "OMFG WE DON'T KNOW WHERE SHE IS!" They immediately assumed her BF kidnapped and/or murdered her. The police were called, an investigation was opened up. Her BF's address showed he'd moved away. I had to sit with the police and go through an interrogation about her last whereabouts. She became a missing person, and once a week for two months, her parents called and asked if I had heard anything. The detective called with more questions. Then her car was found in an impound lot: it had been abandoned and looted in a New Jersey parking garage. Then the calls petered off and stopped.

A year went by, and I assumed the worst.

One day, one of the employees in another store in the mall told me he saw her with her BF. I didn't believe them, but then other people said that they'd seen her, and corroborated some stories she told them. Apparently, she had been planning to run away for some time, and just ran away with her BF and went NC with her family. That didn't work out so well, because both had trouble finding jobs and then their car got carjacked. Both of them were forced to return home, and her parents were forced to reconcile that she was never going to leave her BF.

I was pretty pissed, though, that I thought she was dead.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Many years ago, a woman that worked at the same place, just didn't turn up one day. I think they (the closest thing we had to HR at the time) let this slide for a week, then called her. She just said "Oh, I didn't work to work there any more".

I don't think they pursued it any further and let it at that.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I just don't understand that mentality. You burn a bridge, when you could just send an email or something saying you quit and keep the possibility of coming back sometime open. Or if your boss actually liked you, you could have gotten a recommendation, but instead decided to make their life suck.

Just send an email saying you quit, it's really not that hard.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You burn a bridge

Yeah, that's kind of the point

keep the possibility of coming back sometime open

If I wanted to work there I wouldn't be quitting, especially not just dipping out

Or if your boss actually liked you, you could have gotten a recommendation

Usually people doing this aren't in that situation, being on good terms with someone usually means you don't just vanish on them

instead decided to make their life suck.

The vast majority of times this is, again, the point

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You do you, but a little professionalism goes a long way. Maybe that manager moves to another org that you want to apply at, and they reject you because of how you acted the last time. Or maybe they just tell someone at the new org how you left.

Doing this has zero benefits to you, sending an email takes almost zero effort and might have some benefit for you. The rational thing is to send the email.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Maybe that manager moves to another org that you want to apply at, and they reject you because of how you acted the last time

Good, I don't have to work with them again, win for me

Doing this has zero benefits to you

Catharsis comes to mind, on top of the schadenfreude

sending an email takes almost zero effort

Yeah, and thats part of why not doing it sends a point

If your workers hate working for you so much they won't even send an email then you should evaluate your management and work culture, yakno?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I thought it was weird at the time. The contracts had a notice period in, and it's not like many US states where employment is at-will. The employer is definitely required to give notice (albeit they can send you home and just pay you the notice period, which many do). So I suspect they could have gone after her for that, if they wanted to.

Likely they considered it not worth pursuing, though.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

But if you're going to violate a contract anyway, might as well make dealing with that easier for your direct manager. Maybe you're unwilling to work those three months, but sending an email saying you resign at least helps your boss out. My boss put one of my coworkers on disability leave, for example, instead of firing them (he fired them when they came back after a couple months and the issue wasn't resolved).

But it all starts with actually making the most base level of effort. An email takes like 10 seconds and doesn't need to be long:

Sorry for the short notice, but I can't work here anymore and won't be coming in anymore. Know I'm supposed to give more notice, but I just can't. Sorry again.

As someone that manages people, I'd be annoyed with that, but less annoyed than if someone just stopped showing up. In fact, if they were a decent worker, I might respond with something like this:

Thanks for letting me know. Here's the documentation for short-term disability, if that's what you need. Let me know if you'd like to try that. I've started processing your resignation with the shortest possible term (X days), but I can cancel that if you let my know by . I've told the team you're out sick, so coming back won't be an issue if you choose to.

I hope everything is well, please feel free to reach out, even if you just want to talk.

And if I really didn't like the employee:

Sorry to hear that, thanks for letting me know, I've started processing your resignation. Our policy is 3 months notice, and the consequence for doing that is . I've attached a copy of the company policy for you to review.

Let me know if you need anything further.

Both are better than sending no notice at all.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I ran away from my site like this one day. I was working as an Engineer Trainee. No one gave a damn. Eventually, I returned after a month or so. Resigned in less than one month after returning. Man, I hate this country with a passion where you are not even treated as a human being, but as a machine.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

You were able to leave your job for a month, come back and continue like nothing happened, then were able to resign a month after that...and you are saying you weren't treated like a human?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Average .ml take

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Yeah, that company is really tolerant. I'm guessing OP could've negotiated a sabbatical with people that lax.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

Which country? (I would guess Mali since you're using a .ml domain... 😉)

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