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Finished work and was absolutely exhausted when I came home.
Had a wash and turned on the heater and fell asleep in bed for an hour and a half I think.
Tuesdays are so full on. Thankfully tomorrow will be a lot less eventful at work and I can focus on some light manual labor so to speak.
ok, I need the collective wise mind of the dt to help explain this weird behaviour
my MIL insists on visiting her sick son in hospital every single day, sick son, my BIL, has had terrible cardiac disease which required many months in hospital
So MIL would visit every day. She's not a caring person, If someone is sick she says, "I don't like that you/they are sick. " She doesn't do any actual tending. She is narcissistic , diagnosed.
Her visits became a burden on the son and the doctors told her to stop coming as son needed undisturbed rest. She still went to visit.
I just can't figure what she got out of it. Why did she do it?
She impeded his recuperation. Her visiting usually meant no one else could visit as visiting was restricted. She complained about going.
If the goal was to make people think she was nice and caring it didn't work.
maybe she need reassurance from her son ( yes, that is fucked up )
I am at a loss as to why she did it.
Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance...
Attention-Seeking Behavior...
Lack of Empathy...
Exploiting Others...
Ticks a few NPD boxes there. Very rough on the BIL. Have a few in my fam and it's basically hitting your head against a brick wall :( Feel for you guys, not easy.
Grandiose Sense of Self-Importanceβ¦
So she is so important everyone must want her presence and she will bestow her presence on those she deems worthy ( or can exploit )
Her visit is more important than anyone else's. Does not matter to her other people couldn't visit
she know better than doctors or just doesn't care
She sounds churchy.
It's def important to her that people think she is spiritual.
To her not being spiritual is an insult, so she calls other people not spiritual is she doesn't like them/is angry.
I am not wise but I'll give this a crack.
The Martyr - someone who tries to get sympathy from others when he or she has a problem or too much work, usually when that person caused the problem or chose to do the work himself or herself:
I would bet my arse she has told EVERYONE how she must visit her son because nobody else has. Poor me.
Secondly. She doesn't want to miss out on anything that is said by doctors or staff.
I would bet my arse she has told EVERYONE how she must visit her son because nobody else has. Poor me.
For sure.
No one else could go because he was only allowed one short visit a day π‘ A few times I had to go to bring things but couldn't actually visit.
she never brought him anything he needed, that was still left up to other people
Secondly. She doesnβt want to miss out on anything that is said by doctors or staff
Agreed.
And yet she ignored the doctors advice on what would be good for son.
I copy and pasted the description of what a Martyr is btw but everything else was mine. I've met a few martyrs in my time. They stand out like dog's balls.
How to deal with a martyr? You can't because they won't listen. They are more wiser than you.
Would like to think through this one in detail - does sound weird on first impressions. Will respond later.
Just for more context, has she been asked why she visits every day and what her answer to that is?
Yes, she has been asked.
She said she should, no reason given That's all she said.
When told the doctors said not to she just ignored what we said, just like how she ignored the doctors.
I think it's possible he was a captive audience.
I don't care , I'm just curious/puzzled.
Any cat people have advice on how to feed a cat wearing a cone? Poor Tommy had a bleedy toe and he's not allowed to lick it for three days.
He's currently walking into things and complaining, and looking sad.
If you get some coban tape (stretchy adhesive manage stuff) could you cover the paw so he can have some cone free time to eat? And some of those dine squeezy treats could work as a supplemental thing, you don't want him to go off his food. You can also get a soft collar that can squish up when he bumps into things.
Thanks! I'll look into coban tape. Squeezy treats have already been administered!
Apparently because it's his front paw, a soft collar will be too easy for him to get around. But it's only a couple of days, and he's already happier.
A small plate raised up slightly should help cone-cat eat. You could also try hand feeding him (disposable gloves, for food safety and because cat food is gross).
If possible, try and find a plate and something to place it on that is smaller than the diameter of his cone, so he can get to it. May not even need to raise it, just use a small, flat plate. But raising it up will help if he's cone is large, he might not be able to reach it.
Edit: you could also try something entirely different, such as a sock repurposed to fit his leg, so he can't lick it, but wouldn't need the cone. You could try securing it with a scrunchy. You could also attach the repurposed sock to a body suit (I made one out of the leg of my old leggings), sew the sock onto one of the holes for his leg, and that way no cone, and less likely to come off.
You could also try vet wrap bandages, instead of a sock, it isn't adhesive to fur, just itself, and you could again secure it with a scrunchy.
I keep editing because now I'm going full mcgyver on this haha
Thanks! I will try a raised plate first because yes, cat food is gross and I'd just as soon not deal with hand feeding. But if we have to we have to.
I just made an edit as well. But yeah, I reckon a plate raised up would really help, moreso than hand feeding. Cats like to feel independent haha
Thanks for the sock idea! I'll see how he goes tonight with the cone. Apparently they adjust reasonably fast? He's looking less drunk anyway.
Mr Sad Cat:
Naw big baby, hell feel better soon! ππ
Poor fluffy butt.
Aww, poor sad boy
My heart breaks for sad conecat π he looks so defeated
It is a bit cliche, but I just bought myself a typewriter. I am ridiculously excited to get it.
I've always been interested in whether they make a difference. It has to feel like a middle ground between writing by hand and using the computer
I don't think it would be fast enough for writing a story (for me). But I hope to use it for smaller things. Give it a personal touch. Like thank you letters to schools.
And award winning speeches...lol
Best of the best was the Selectric II - the best production typewriter ever. I got typing speeds in excess of 145 words per minute on one of those things with good accuracy. Mind you, copy typing legal briefs was an excellent way to train up my fingers. The actual keys were lovely - had a dip in the middle that really helped you not miss-hit it. No such thing as autocorrect, so fixing a mistake took a lot longer than getting it right the first time. Modern computer keyboards are nothing like as user friendly, so all the magic auto correct aids are needed to produce readable text. Actual speed I reckon is about the same as a modern computer keyboard. It's finger dependent and brain dependent not mechanics dependent.
I canβt stand those near totally flat keyboards. I need keys that move for my typing brain to work right.
Fully agree with this.
This is exactly what I'm going to write first up.
I learned on one of those things, only it was a manual. Its amazing how strong your littlest finger gets after a bit. On the plus side, smashing the carriage return lever is such fun.
Love the carriage smash. And I managed to convince an elderly colleague to stop abusing the tab key by explaining how the slide things on the ruler are exactly the same on a computer!
All work and no play make Homer something something...
Go crazy?
The OG of mechanical keyboards π
Jobs that have a lower cognitive demand than uni but higher cognitive demand than retail?
I fear I need direct instructions but not to the point of monotony.
Admin jobs. Requires the chutzpah to insist on people following procedures. Most admin jobs are about corralling information so you can find it again. Plus some phone skills. And you learn real quick how to drive printers and photocopiers etc. And the intricacies of the bowels of Australia Post and courier companies. This could actually be a turn off. But the skills come in handy almost anywhere.
Most grad jobs really. And there's no homework. That actually makes a huge difference, or it did to me. It's not hanging over you the whole time.
