7 years down the fucking shitter and she only left after she finished destroying my life. I wish things didn't end the way they did because my memories of her are all tainted with the knowledge that she was never who I thought she was.
this post was submitted on 13 Feb 2024
395 points (98.8% liked)
memes
10269 readers
2532 users here now
Community rules
1. Be civil
No trolling, bigotry or other insulting / annoying behaviour
2. No politics
This is non-politics community. For political memes please go to [email protected]
3. No recent reposts
Check for reposts when posting a meme, you can only repost after 1 month
4. No bots
No bots without the express approval of the mods or the admins
5. No Spam/Ads
No advertisements or spam. This is an instance rule and the only way to live.
Sister communities
- [email protected] : Star Trek memes, chat and shitposts
- [email protected] : Lemmy Shitposts, anything and everything goes.
- [email protected] : Linux themed memes
- [email protected] : for those who love comic stories.
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
I just got out of an 8 year relationship within the last month. I don't know what to offer you besides hoping that you did have some good memories to remember together and it sounds like not having them in your life is better in the long run for you. Hopefully your time together helped improve you as a person and you can go forward a stronger person, or the emotional space you have now can help lead you down a path of self-improvement.
Honestly I have been searching desperately for a silver lining and there truly just isn't one. I lost my job because of the stress of trying to save the relationship and mental health has been too wrecked to even begin the search for new work. My apartment looks like a hoarder's den because I can't bring myself to do any chores. My health is deteriorating rapidly due to stress and because I don't eat most days. Not for lack of money, I just can't bring myself to do anything. And the fucking nightmares, every night. I've become so jaded I don't even recognize myself anymore.
RIP Mr Stevenson
I miss the good times. I don't miss the incredible jealousy, having to slowly shed all my female friends. I don't miss arguments because some girl heart reacted my fb post. I don't miss the gaslighting. I don't miss just having to give her her way because she would never compromise, or see something from someone else's perspective.
I miss the year where I thought she was honest about being over her jealousy issues, when she wanted to be Poly. Where I could at least have healthy friendships again, while still being with her. Where I thought maybe I could fix things, turn our relationship around. But all of that was a mirage. She didn't stop being jealous because she had changed. She stopped being jealous because she was done, and just leaving me slowly, and wanted to date another guy so she'd have another relationship to catch her when she left.
Are you me
The duality of man
I miss her tits
You'll find another pair don't you worry. Life has it's ups and downs.
The duality of man
There's a lot of truth to this. I miss the idea of being coupled, but I don't miss the petty stressors.
It makes me sad that we won't get another season of him.
His story arc was kinda the most interesting out of all the BS of ahsoka. Fallen jedi (i wouldnt even call sith) acting as a mercenary because of a calling in the force. The same thing calling him, scaring the nightsisters away.
He was in one of the worst seasons of Dexter too but was the shining light in it all. A gay mafia boss who was executing people left right and center to get vengeance for his lost love. Such an incredible character and portrayed AMAZINGLY well. Dude won me over immediately. I'll watch anything with him in it and he was definitely the best part of Ahsoka by far. Although... that's not saying a huge amount, unfortunately.
Now Andor...
He's also fantastic in Rome, an older HBO show if you haven't seen that one.
TITUS PULLO!
He is also fantastic in Black Sails
An older HBO show
I just felt myself immediately crumble into dust
Yeah, most people these days watch the colorized version, but it should really be appreciated in the original black and white.
Hey now, even I Claudius was in color, cut that shit out. Who sent you, AARP?
What show was this?
Ahsoka
Ah, tyvm!
That's exactly it. I miss the beautiful lie that never truly existed.
I lamented my big ex for a years who left me for someone with money. Oddly it was a Wes Anderson film, The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou, that broke my fever.
He had a submarine on his ship that was once called Jacqueline but the name was crossed out. At some point his new found son asked who Jacqueline was, and Steve says the damndest thing:
"She didn't really love me"
That was the important bit missing in my heart. There wasn't something that had been truly lost, it was never there to begin with. The person I thought I loved was a mirage and a facade. I'm sure for some that would make it worse, but it helped me greatly.
It's a crazy thing to finally be able to say.
My parents warned me 13 ish years ago that she doesn't really love me and will cause a lot of pain one day when I realize that.
Oooo boy I wish I listened
As someone who struggles with yearning for an abusive ex... thanks. I think I kind of needed that too.