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The Healing Power of Hugs (www.psychologytoday.com)

submitted 3 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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hugs/touch psychologist discusses. I know I like hugs.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The importance of physical touch, hugs, and intimacy is so great, that I've long since been convinced that sex work should be legalized. Why? Because often people will engage with a sex worker purely for this kind of intimate contact, even if it's not sexual at all. Can you imagine a depressed 40-50 something that is lonely, and just wants someone to hold him, stroke his hair, and tell him it will be all right? I'm willing to bet that's like 30% of the clientele

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

yes. spent a few years in Germany 30 years ago. their approach to prostitution seemed much kinder for all involved. regulate/tax everybody wins. US treats it like a religious sin and it destroys lives and drives everything underground. Like the 'drug wars'. I spent a month in hospital and remember so many hugs from friends/family/coworkers that helped me feel loved and helped me deal with long recovery. Psychological benefits are huge. sex work should be legal and would reduce crime rates.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

I'm a CIS male, love hugs. It's even better when another good male friend of mine isn't afraid to hug, too.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

I want a hug so badly

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

You and me both, mate. All the friends who gave me the best hugs are unfortunately not with us anymore...

I agree with the article, but it just gave me a big reminder that I could really use a hug.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

🫂 🫂 🫂

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

🫂

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

As a male therapist I have to be so careful with this.

Even clients who totally trust me have reported that little voice that's learned to be suspicious of men gets a bit worried by physical contact. Taking into account that I don't ever initiate hugs or any kind of touch, that says a lot about the dangers to both parties.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

I thought I liked hugs but it's been so long since I've had one, I totally froze and made it awkward as fuck. I apologized after and explained what happened. My friend was totally cool about it.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

On the flip side, please don't touch me.