No, it gets much worse.
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This is 100% truth.
When you're young, you have a lot of free time and no money to enjoy that time
When you get into a career, you have money, and no time.
When you retire, you have money and time (to some extent), but you're old and likely not able to enjoy things nearly as much as you would have been able to when you were younger (generally due to body aches and whatnot).
Being middle/lower "class", you're basically fucked.
It's easy! Just take 100% of your free time and throw it away on a far-off dream so you're completely exhausted. Go into debt trying to get a fancy degree to maybe increase your earning potential.
More seriously, if you feel you're in the same position:
If you're privileged enough and have the willpower, you might be able to find a happier work environment (though it requires sacrificing your already meager free time by searching for jobs constantly for 6-12 months or more). I know folks for whom that's paid off - very impressed with them. May also be some online courses or community colleges around that could open doors.
If your situation is impossible, I'm sorry. I feel for you.
No but it does get worse after you have kids. Ah who am I kidding, this is a greentext post.
But then you get kids. Definitely better than video games.
Father of 3 kids under 6, I still play an hour or so a day, some weekends I get a night to play with friends.
And I have time for work in commercial electrician. Come home to work on my garden, chickens, greenhouse, and hang with the kids and family.
Going to be doing my own solar in the next week or two. Tonight going to a mtg mh3 event with a friend to play some magic.
All weekend to chill with my children, wife, and enjoy some parks. Once kids are asleep I'll watch a movie with my wife.
Life is good. Time for everything.
Are you guys dual income though? How do you have time to keep your home clean? I don't even have kids but with full time work I struggle.
I'm full time (40 hours) and my wife is a stay at home mom. She might work in the summer for delta airlines as a gate agent but that's if the season allows for it. Either way that income is less than $5k for the year so it's not for the money, but the flight benefits.
The home being clean... Well we let a lot of things get surface dirty because cleaning after the kids is a full time job in and of itself. We'll deep clean once a week, dishes are cleaned right away, toys after you're done, beds, sheets, carpets and deep floor weekly. We got a system. My wife does an amazing job. I make sure our vacuums work lol.
Agree on the taking care of the place full time job piece! My partner and I are just starting to think about kids, and are most worried about the extra work in making sure things stay clean enough to be safe.
Granted, I've had a whole lot of health issues (just completed surgery 5/5 in the last 5 years) so a lot of home maintenance fell by the wayside. We're also both full time (42 hours minimum) and on top of that I have at least 4 medical appointments weekly still, so we are just in the process of getting a system going.
Thank you for sharing what works for you!
Oh wow yeah that sounds like a hand full. Health becomes a problem for us. If one of us gets sick for a few days it gets pretty rough. We don't have too much time to go out, and my wife and I haven't really went on too many dates since our 3rd was born. But we're both on the same page that it's part of the season we're in. I'm busy maybe 3 days a week and that already makes it rough, but I can't imagine if my week was full of appointments.
Don't worry about being too clean for the kids. The first one is always going to be the learning curve, and we've been there with the ultra clean everything. Germs and chokeables. Now on our 3rd we're a lot more lax, being more observant when it's necessary. But you will drive yourself crazy picking every speck off the ground lol.
But ultimately my wife and I are a team. And if there's anything that becomes too hard for us it's because we weren't on the same page about it. Life moves forward. Children are the best thing that ever happened to us. And our hobbies didn't disappear, we got new ones and old ones either aren't interesting anymore or adapted to fit. You'll never be 100% ready. If you and your partner want children, let that child grow with you.
Yep I got one and videogames aren't even in my radar. I don't even have a gaming computer anymore
I mean it helps if you don't completely hate your job.
Easier said than done
Yes, but maybe worth prioritizing in your career.
Trust me, i would LOVE to enjoy my 10 hour manual labor workday at the only employer that pays that well in a 50 mile radius, but call me cynical, I find it quite difficult
Can you consider moving to a better place? I understand you might have things going you down but it's good to evaluate your options
This is the kind of thing that's easy to say but hard to do
Yeah Ive thought about it, that's not something I can even consider though until I wipe out some debts and save up
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